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Wednesday, June 6, 2018

Things I try not to think about and try to enjoy others’ milestones

The things I don’t like to think about are related to my Special Needs Adult Children. That’s what I tell people who are not close to me. That I have Spexial Needs Adult Children. Both my children have the same mental illness. I think there is even more stigma and negativity attached to mental illness with the school shootings and shootings in general. I don’t need to put myself through the questioning looks, and I don’t think I could handle a conversation about it with people who are not close to me. I thank God that my childrens’ illnesses have not taken a violent turn. I’ve not had to be concerned with physical abuse. 

The things that I don’t like to think about have to do with all the milestones young adults go through starting in high school, dating, learning to drive, first job, touring colleges, selecting colleges. Graduating college. Getting engaged. Getting married. Having children. Their illnesses don’t prevent these life events, it doesn’t mean they will never happen. It just means that the road to them is much longer.

Every time someone I know reaches one of these milestones with their children I can’t help but feel a bit jealous. It’s short-lived, I don’t dwell on it, but it’s still there.

I just try as best I can to be there for my children and hope they are happy. The milestones will come in time...some of them. I just pray I get to see them.

Sometimes I think I should write a book about what it’s like...being a parent of mentally ill children, young adult children. I don’t know how to write a book. I don’t know if anyone would read it, but I do think it could be a very cathartic process. I write a lot of blog posts lately, I publish just a few. They’re too personal or gut wrenching, but I feel a little better after writing them. That’s probably more important...the feeling better part.

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Sunday, June 3, 2018

When shopping goes dance-pop


My spouse and I were shopping the Kmart store closing sale December 2016. The store was pretty picked over. We were in electronics and the Spice Girls “Wannabe” came on. Shelves were bare, I was bored, I started singing along...yes...out loud. My spouse was too. I started cart dancing. (Well what else would you call it? People chair dance, right?) 

We sing  (I’m much louder and more into it because I have the cart!): the line: “Yo, I'll tell you what I want, what I really really want.” ‘Out of nowhere we hear a woman sing: “So, tell me what you want, what you really really want.” We sing the next line, she the next. Then we all start cracking up and meander in different directions. We’re whispering to each other “wtf? Did that really happen?” We scurried around trying to find the 3rd member of our shopping cart dance-pop group. It was like she vanished into thin air.

Yes! It really happened! How cool is that?

"Wannabe"

Yo, I'll tell you what I want, what I really really want.
So, tell me what you want, what you really really want.
I'll tell you what I want, what I really really want.
So, tell me what you want, what you really really want.
I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna really, really, really wanna zigazig, ah.

If you want my future forget my past.
If you wanna get with me better make it fast.
Now don't go wasting my precious time.
Get your act together, we could be just fine.

I'll tell you what I want, what I really really want.
So, tell me what you want, what you really really want.
I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna really, really, really wanna zigazig, ah.

If you wanna be my lover
You gotta get with my friends
(gotta get with my friends).
Make it last forever,
Friendship never ends.
If you wanna be my lover
You have got to give.
Taking is too easy, but that's the way it is.

What do you think about that? Now you know how I feel.
Say you can handle my love. Are you for real
(are you for real)?
I won't be hasty, I'll give you a try.
If you really bug me then I'll say goodbye.

Yo, I'll tell you what I want, what I really really want.
So, tell me what you want, what you really really want.
I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna—, I wanna really, really, really wanna zigazig, ah.

If you wanna be my lover
You gotta get with my friends
(gotta get with my friends).
Make it last forever,
Friendship never ends.
If you wanna be my lover
You have got to give.
(You got to give.)
Taking is too easy, but that's the way it is.

So here's a story from A to Z.
You wanna get with me?
You gotta listen carefully.
We got Em in the place
Who likes it in your face.
She got G like MC
Who likes it on an—Easy V
Doesn't come for free.
She's a real lady.
And as for me?
Ha-ha! You'll see.

Slam your body down and wind it all around.
Slam your body down and wind it all around.

If you wanna be my lover
You gotta get with my friends
(gotta get with my friends).
Make it last forever,
Friendship never ends.
If you wanna be my lover
You have got to give.
(You got to give.)
Taking is too easy, but that's the way it is.

If you wanna be my lover
You gotta—, you gotta—, you gotta—, you gotta—,
You gotta slam, slam, slam, slam.
Make it last forever.

Slam your body down and wind it all around.
Slam your body down and wind it all around.

Slam your body down and wind it all around.
Slam your body down and zigazig, ah.

If you wanna be my lover.

Wannabe - Radio Edit lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group, Peermusic Publishing

https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/spicegirls/wannabe.html


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