There is something about Wisconsinites (or at least all the Wisconsinites I know) that makes them:
a. not want to cross the Illinois/Wisconsin border to go into Illinois. (Especially if the destination is Chicago, because of Al Capone, who by the way is long dead. Hello!)Awhile back my bff Joey's sister, Cathie found me on Facebook. We've exchanged very little information since she found me and I've often wondered if her Mother was still living. I looked through her photographs on Facebook and didn't really recognize anyone in the photos, other than Cathie. (Joey passed away, I think, in 1989 from a brain tumor. See Six Random Things About Me.)
b. not want to make long distance calls because of the expense. (Which is silly now, what with the calling plans available and cell phones.)
My sister actually crossed the Illinois/Wisconsin border this weekend, although not traveling all the way to our fair city. Her and her husband booked a weekend getaway about an hour and a half away from where we live. My sister invited our kids to go swimming at the hotel they were staying at, without first consulting me. Wasn't that nice of her? If I didn't drive the kids up there, I'm the bad Mom. Oh, I'm not even going to go there.
Anyway, I asked my sister if she'd seen or heard from Terry lately. Her reply was no, she didn't think Terry had her cell phone number. To which I responded, 'but you still have your house phone, don't you have an answering machine'? Her reply was 'no, we only use the house phone for the computer'. So that effectively cut the string in our long distance version of the old tin can and string. This made me realize that I likely was missing out on a lot of information.
When I got home Sunday night I googled the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel and clicked on the obituarys (because I'm all tech savvy like that) and entered Joey and Cathie's Mother's name. Sadly, it came up. She passed away in September 2007. Even though I could not read the full obituary without paying a fee (what's up with that?), the fact that it listed her late husband's name, I'm pretty sure it's her, since it's not a common last name, nor was his first name common. I feel like total shit. I would have dropped everything to go to that funeral. Honestly, I would have. Now I feel terrible and wonder if this could have something to do with the sort of stilted communication we've had via Facebook. Of course it certainly could just be the passage of time, busy lives, etc.
As I write this post in the wee hours of Memorial Day I wonder, should I contact Cathie on Facebook about her Mother's passing? I'm just wondering how I should bring it up. Any thoughts?
Thank you for all your suggestions. I don't have Cathie's phone number, but have made contact via Facebook with private messages, the only way I have of contacting her other than snail mail. I'll do a post to update when I hear back from her and I will have information about my other efforts to cut the tin can and string method of communication through my sister.