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If I Could Blog Back Time Thursday - Moving To Monthly

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This Month's topic is: Favorite Cartoons -
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Update...

I was able to raise the $250 shortfall through ad sales, guest post sales and a short term loan from family. Thank you to all for your prayers. I was able to make the payment by the deadline. For those that are in similar situations and have sent prayers, please know that we will be praying for you as well.
Thank you all!

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

follow up - IL budget crisis

Many of my readers may recall my recent post IL Budget Crisis 50% Doomsday Budget. I actually got an email from my representative, before I had a chance to contact her. Here is the email:
Dear Friend,

The Governor’s doomsday budget talk has created real panic in the lives of people in our communities and throughout the state.

Recently, I met with parents who are terrified that their autistic son will not receive the services he needs. I have spoken to an elderly mother who does not know what she will do if her adult child can no longer live at the independent living center which serves persons with developmental disabilities. There are endless stories throughout this state of families whose lives will be utterly devastated if the Governor honors his threat to cut funding to social service providers by 50%.

And these families have all been told that their ONLY SAVING GRACE is for the General Assembly to pass a 50% increase on the state’s income tax….or it’s doomsday for those agencies who serve the state’s most vulnerable residents.

But Republicans and Democrats agree that increasing the income tax during a collapsing economy is not the ONLY answer.

This week in Springfield, the General Assembly will consider a proposal to issue pension notes as a way to generate approximately $2.2 billion. This is an option I will consider, but there would have to be accountability to guarantee that the money would be used to honor existing contracts with community care providers, leverage more fed funds and social service agencies.

There are other proposals that would help the state reduce its debt without raising taxes on families.

We can start cost-cutting by reforming our Medicaid System. In the past six years Medicaid costs alone have increased 7.8% per year (47%) while the population of Illinois remained stagnant. During that same six year period, Medicaid has skyrocketed from representing about 30% of our $50 billion-plus budget to more than 40%. 2.5 million Illinoisans currently receive Medicaid, nearly 1/6th of the total population; some qualifying at 400% of the poverty level. Yes, that means a family making more than $80,000 per year could qualify. You, the taxpayers, pay $27 million a day for Medicaid.

Some other proposals include:
* A 4% to 5% across the board cut of all state spending, starting with our salaries.
* Open negotiations with AFSCME (state employee union). One union official reportedly told a human service provider recently that they may forego their scheduled 4% pay increase if asked-ok, we’re asking.
* Immediately institute a two-tiered state pension system. New hires must come in under a less expensive system.
* Request furlough days
* Freeze new programs
* Freeze hiring
* Freeze travel
* Work at consolidating our current 870 school districts in Illinois. As a former school board member, I recognize this won’t be easy, but it at least merits discussion.
Good ideas? Don’t they at least merit discussion?

I will continue to keep you updated on the state’s budget issues, as well as any progress that is made in Springfield this week.

For those of you who have Illinois American Water.. As many of you know, Illinois American Water filed for a rate increase (docket number 09-251) in April to pay for infrastructure improvements. The second rate increase, which would increase your rates by 30%, was filed in May and will receive a docket number during the Illinois Commerce Commission’s (ICC) session on July 8. The ICC will have 11 months to review the case.

I urge you to participate in the rate case proceedings, by calling the ICC’s toll-free number at 800-524-0795. Public comments can also be made online at http://www.icc.illinois.gov/docket/comment/online.aspx under the docket number and the non-docketed Illinois American Water cases. Customers should comment on both cases.

I will also personally be contacting the ICC to request a public forum in my district regarding the proposed rate increase. The ICC should hear from the people whose bank accounts will take a hit. I will urge Illinois American Water to decrease costs in these hard economic times, not raise rates. We have all had to tighten our belts, and Illinois American Water should too.

As always, do not hesitate to contact my office at (708) 479-4200 with any questions or concerns.

Sincerely,
Renée Kosel
State Representative- 81st District
I responded back with my personal story and my concerns about the 50% Doomsday Budget.

Here is Representative Kosel's response:
Dear Lola,

I did not vote for that 50% budget nor did any Republican in the house or senate. Then the governor sent letters like that out before it was even pass to his desk. How much do you think it cost for him send that letter to everyone? Was that a good use of state dollars in hard times? How many Dr appointments would he have been able to pay for with the dollars he spent on that mailing? I am so sick of people down here playing with people lives and then changing things during the 11 hour. When will the majority party start to be about the people not the power or the party? I appreciate your thoughtful response Thank you

Renee

I sent a quick email back clarifying that the letter I received was not mailed, but offered to me when I went for services. Isn't it cool we're on a first name basis?

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

My Eighth Conversation 10 Months - 10 Lives Challenge

Wow, just getting this in under the wire for the month of June!

Some of you may recall my previous posts on the 10 Month - 10 Lives Challenge.
Join The Impact says “Join us in a challenge over the next 10 months that will make an IMPACT. 10 months - 10 lives changed. Everyone in this movement must help keep the conversation going.
"We are asking each and every one of you to engage in 10 conversations with someone who does not understand our struggle and help them to see our point of view. We are not asking that you try to infringe on or disrespect their beliefs. Change can not occur with insult, it will only occur with respect. If all of us work hard to positively affect 10 lives, we can change this entire nation!"
If you missed my original posts, be sure to click on each to view them:
My 5th Conversation 10 Months - 10 Lives Challenge.
My 6th Conversation 10 Months - 10 Lives Challenge.
My 7th Conversation 10 Months - 10 Lives Challenge.
It's time for my Eighth Conversation of the 10 Month - 10 Lives Challenge. One of the things that married couples take for granted is that your spouse can inform medical professionals about your health history, allergic reactions to medications and make informed medical decisions for you when you are incapable of making them for yourself.

As glbt couples who cannot marry, many of us go to attorneys and have legal documents drawn up to approximate some of the civil rights we are denied by not being allowed to marry or have a marriage equivalent.

Hospital Discriminated Against Lesbians - The Advocate. In Fresno, CA Community Regional Medical Center denied Rowe access to Orbin "despite having paperwork naming her as Orbin's health care agent." Orbin was given a drug that she as an allergic/bad reaction to because Rowe was unable to convey this information to medical staff. It makes me shudder to think what would have happened were the drug that was administered caused a fatal reaction.

"According to a joint press release from the ACLU and NCLR, Teresa Rowe and Kristin Orbin were participating in the "Meet in the Middle" rally for marriage equality in Fresno on May 29 when Orbin, who has epilepsy, collapsed in a seizure. Rowe accompanied Orbin to Community Regional Medical Center in Fresno, where Rowe was refused entry into the emergency room and repeatedly denied access to Orbin and the medical staff, despite having paperwork naming her as Orbin’s health care agent. Because of the separation, Orbin was given the drug Ativan, which Rowe tried to tell doctors causes her unnecessary pain.

Legal documents, paperwork naming a person another's health care agent, medical power of attorney aren't worth the paper they are written on if hospital staff choose to ignore them.

Married couples aren't required to submit any legal documentation, other than perhaps to show identification.

Thank goodness Ms. Orbin's reaction to the drug was not fatal.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Monday, June 29, 2009

Big sigh of relief

If you haven't been following my doctor saga, you can catch up by reading these:
Rants
More Rants
Ridiculous

Ok, caught up? I went for my blood tests and EKG results. The results? I don't have those "2 scary words" that I wouldn't put in my Ridiculous post. Let's just say I'm not the Tinman and I won't be traveling to Oz for a new heart. The EKG was NORMAL! Hey doctor! Way to give me panic attacks for a week worrying over that. The Blood Test results were good. My liver enzymes are normal even though I take ridiculous amounts of Ibuprofen (rx) for my back problems. I do need to start taking Lipitor because I'm now a diabetic and my LDL needs to be lower than a person without diabetes. My blood glucose test in the office today was back down to the good range thanks to my new medication. So all is good.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

weekend words - fried, crispy...

That would be Anastasia I'm talking about. Friday Anastasia saw the Cubs beat the Sox at the Cell. She rode in style with her cousin in a Corvette Stingray with the top down. When they drove in people where high fiving them thinking they were celebrities. She said it was too funny.

I don't know why she needs reminding, but redheads do need more than 1 application of sunscreen. In fact, if you can get a constant spray of sunscreen, that may not even be enough. She came home fried. Did you know you can get from Harlem and I80 to the cell in 20 minutes if you drive a Corvette like a madman? (She said she didn't see a thing because her eyes were closed the whole way and she lost track of the number of Hail Mary's she said.)

Saturday we went to our local Farmer's Market, but we made no purchases. It was a quick run in and out just before closing. Sadly the produce didn't look good this week. Hopefully next week it will look better.

Sunday we went to Cedar Lake, Indiana. It was just about a knock down drag out fight to get our daughter to go. She claimed we sprung it on her. No, we told her the day we knew that Anastasia had her day off confirmed. I finally had to threaten her with 'I never get to go anywhere and do anything, if I have to stay home because you refuse to go, you're not going to like me.' That was the gist of it, give or take a few words. I closed it with the classic 'Mom is totally serious and not foolin' look'. Suddenly she got her butt off the living room floor and out the door.

It was just under an hour drive. What a beautiful scenic drive! I was so glad we opted to take back roads instead of the highway. It took less than 10 extra minutes and it was definitely worth it. Corn fields, wheat fields, beautiful trees. Nice drive.

06/28/09 Cedar Lake, IN
Gorgeous lake, but it was a bit too choppy for my liking. Anastasia's brother took her and our son on a pontoon boat ride for several hours. Anastasia claimed it wasn't that choppy once you got going. If you say so hon. Anastasia went without sunscreen, so now she's double fried. Hello redhead? Get a clue! I sat in an adirondack chair drinking Snapple and enjoying the breeze. It was actually nicer outside than in the club. Oh yeah, and my daughter was like glue stuck to my side. I still enjoyed it anyway.

I got a 'delayed burn'. Around 11pm my face started to feel real hot. I thought 'oh great! more hot flashes!', but no, I went to look in the mirror and my face and neck were sunburned.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Friday, June 26, 2009

IL Budget Crisis - 50% Doomsday Budget - Please Contact IL Legislators

I just came from my daughter's psychiatrist appointment at Will County Mental Health. If you live in Illinois, you know we still don't have a budget. When we arrived for our appointment we were notified that Governor Quinn sent a letter to their offices notifying them that on July 1, 2009 state funding will be cut 50-100%. If you live in Illinois please contact your legislators. Even if you don't live in Illinois and are familiar with the struggles families go through when a family member suffers from mental illness, contact them and share your story and your concern.

If you are not familiar with my daughter's story, here it is, By Special Request II - About My Daughter

This is the text of the letter I received before my daughter's appointment:
The Illinois General Assembly approved a "Doomsday" Budget on May 30th that severely cuts Human Services, Social Services and Health Care Services in Illinois beginning on July 1, 2009.

Governor Quinn's Illinois Department of Human Services sent the Will County Mental Health Department a letter on June 12, 2009 notifying them that on July 1, 2009 our state funding is cut by as much as 50-100%.

The state budget crisis is real for the clients receiving Prevention, Care and Treatment Services. Many Services may end at day's end of June 30, 2009.

Regrettably,
Many Agencies have closed intake for clients seeking help to treat Mental
Illness/Substance Abuse.
Many Agencies have issued lay-off notices to employees in our community.

The shutdown of Services in our community is a sad and tragic day for us all. By July 1, 2009, that shutdown may include:
Social Services Programs being eliminated.
Many Programs reduced 50-100%.
Many Mental Health positions may be eliminated.
Psychiatry and Medication Services may be eliminated.

We need your help!

We are asking all legislators to reconsider their vote on this "Doomsday" Budget. July 1, 2009 is only a few days away.

Sincerely,

County Mental Health Department

If you could take a few moments of your time I would so much appreciate it. I cannot imagine what would happen if our county's Mental Health Department closed. There are virtually no other psychiatrist's that take public aid. This means that people like my daughter will go without treatment, without medications and what happens then? Hospitalizations. The legislators need to roll up their sleeves and get the job done and they need to do so without cutting vital services and programs.

Please contact Illinois legislators now to ask them to reconsider their vote on this "Doomsday" Budget. July 1st is only days away.

To find your legislators for your district, click here Search Illinois State Legislators.
Here is a link for a list of all Illinois State Senators Illinois State Senators.
Here is a link for a list of all members of the Illinois State House of Representatives Illinois State House Of Representatives.

Here are some email address:
Rep. Luis Arroyo (D) 3rd Dist. - RepDistrict3@gmail.com
Rep. Mark H. Beaubien Jr. (R) 52nd Dist. - strepmbeaubien@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Maria Antonia Berrios (D) 39th Dist. - repberrios39@gmail.com
Rep. William B. Black (R) 104th Dist. - wbblack@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Mike Boland (D) 71st Dist. - ilrepmikeboland@aol.com
Rep. Mike Bost (R) 115th Dist. - rep.bost@hotmail.com
Rep. John E. Bradley (D) 117th Dist. - repjohnbradley@mychoice.net
Rep. Dan Brady (R) 88th Dist. - dan@rep-danbrady.com
Rep. William D. Burns (D) 26th Dist. - repwillburns@att.net
Rep. Elizabeth Coulson (R) 17th Dist. - Coulson@ilga.gov
Rep. John D'Amico (D) 15th Dist. - johnd@ilga.gov
Rep. Anthony DeLuca (D) 80th Dist. - repdeluca@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Keith Farnham (D) 43rd Dist. - krfarnham@gmail.com
Rep. Jack D. Franks (D) 63rd Dist. - jack@jackfranks.org
Rep. Paul D. Froehlich (D) 56th Dist. - statereppaul@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Esther Golar (D) 6th Dist. - esthergolar@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Jehan A. Gordon (D) 92nd Dist. - repjehangordon@gmail.com
Rep. Deborah L. Graham (D) 78th Dist. - st.rep.graham@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Elizabeth Hernandez (D) 24th Dist. - repehernandez@yahoo.com
Rep. Naomi D. Jakobsson (D) 103rd Dist. - naomi@naomijakobsson.com
Rep. Charles E. Jefferson (D) 67th Dist. - staterepchuck67@aol.com
Rep. Renée Kosel (R) 81st Dist. - rkosel@ilga.gov
Rep. David R. Leitch (R) 73rd Dist. - davidleitch@ameritech.net
Rep. Sidney H. Mathias (R) 53rd Dist. - repmathias@hotmail.com
Rep. Frank J. Mautino (D) 76th Dist. - patti76th@ivnet.com
Rep. Karen May (D) 58th Dist. - karen@repkarenmay.org
Rep. Jack McGuire (D) 86th Dist. - jmcguire86@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Susana A. Mendoza (D) 1st Dist. - staterepmendoza@gmail.com
Rep. Bill Mitchell (R) 87th Dist. - repmitchell@earthlink.net
Rep. Jerry L. Mitchell (R) 90th Dist. - repjmitchell@comcast.net
Rep. Donald L. Moffitt (R) 74th Dist. - moffitt@grics.net
Rep. Rosemary Mulligan (R) 65th Dist. - repmulligan@usa.net
Rep. Elaine Nekritz (D) 57th Dist. - enekritz@repnekritz.org
Rep. Harry Osterman (D) 14th Dist. - hjo17@aol.com
Rep. Robert W. Pritchard (R) 70th Dist. - bob@pritchardstaterep.com
Rep. Randy Ramey Jr. (R) 55th Dist. - staterepramey55@aol.com
Rep. Dennis M. Reboletti (R) 46th Dist. - dennisreboletti@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Dan Reitz (D) 116th Dist. - repreitz@egyptian.net
Rep. Al Riley (D) 38th Dist. - rep.riley38@sbcglobal.net
Rep. Kathleen A. Ryg (D) 59th Dist. - kathy@kathyryg.org
Rep. Jim Sacia (R) 89th Dist. - JimSacia@aeroinc.net
Rep. Timothy L. Schmitz (R) 49th Dist. - info@timschmitz.org
Rep. Darlene J. Senger (R) 96th Dist. - sengerstaterep@gmail.com
Rep. Michael K. Smith (D) 91st Dist. - repmikesmith@gmail.com
Rep. Keith P. Sommer (R) 106th Dist. - sommer@mtco.com
Rep. Ron Stephens (R) 102nd Dist. - ron@repstephens.com
Rep. Ed Sullivan Jr. (R) 51st Dist. - ILhouse51@sbcglobal.net
Rep. André M. Thapedi (D) 32nd Dist. - rep32district@gmail.com
Rep. Michael W. Tryon (R) 64th Dist. - Mike@miketryon.com
Rep. Ronald A. Wait (R) 69th Dist. - repwait777@aol.com
Rep. Mark L. Walker (D) 66th Dist. - repmarkwalker@gmail.com
Rep. Eddie Washington (D) 60th Dist. - washington60th@aol.com

No doubt Governor Pat Quinn's 50% Doomsday Budget is a tactic he is using to get people's attention to try to shake up the legislature to get a budget passed. We all need to let these legislators know that the people Illinois cannot deal with these kinds of cuts to very much needed Services and Programs.

If you are able to contact Illinois legislators, please comment and also come back and comment again to let us all know what response you got.

Thank you for your help.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

TGIF! VGNO!

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From the Jim Nabor's Hour 1970 - I'll Be There:

Time For A Question

Have you met the love of your life? If so, how did you meet?
I devoted a post to how I met my partner Anastasia. Click If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays - How We Met to check it out. We met online via PlantOut.com.

I just came from my daughter's psychiatrist appointment at Will County Mental Health. If you live in Illinois, you know we still don't have a budget. When we arrived for our appointment we were notified that Governor Quinn sent a letter to their offices notifying them that on July 1, 2009 state funding will be cut 50-100%. If you live in Illinois please contact your legislators. Even if you don't and are familiar with the struggles families go through when a family member suffers from mental illness, contact them and share your story and your concern.

If you could take a moment of your time to read the post that will follow this and contact our Illinois legislators I would so much appreciate it.

Thank you all!

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Chicago Gay Pride Weekend 06/26 - 06/28

Chicago's 7th Annual Gay Pride Fest is Friday, June 26th, 3:00 PM - 10:00 PM and Saturday, June 27th, 11:00 AM - 10:00 PM. If you're not familiar with the Fest, it's at Waveland & Halsted Streets and is just a big excuse to party and buy rainbow chotchkies, watch Drag Shows and listen to some great music. And let's not forget, the most awesome people watching!
Chicago's 40th Annual Gay Pride Parade is Sunday, June 28th 12noon - 6pm. Alexandra Billings, actor, teacher and activist is the Grand Marshal this year.

If you've never been to Chicago's Gay Pride Parade...GO! It's a must see and everyone is welcome. Yes there are lots of gays, lesbians, bi-sexuals, transgendered, Drag Queens, Drag Kings, but there are also gay couples with their children and straight couples with their children. It's not the nekkid wild party of old. (Although in parts, it can be. More on that later with my most recent Pride story.)

My first Pride story comes from 1988 when I first moved to Chicago. I wasn't out to myself then (not a clue), but I just happened to move in one of the gayest neighborhoods in Chicago. I had just moved in 2 weeks before, and knew nothing about the parade. I was driving home from Targhay and I could not get near my neighborhood. I drove for at least 2 hours looking for street parking, gave up and drove into a Lake Shore Drive high rise's parking lot. The lot attendant asked me if I was "one of those", meaning, was I gay? I was practically in tears at this point, showed him my driver's license proving I lived around the corner and begged him to let me park there.

My second Pride story comes from the June after I came out. I went to Girl Bar on Halsted (sadly, it's no longer there) the Friday before Pride. I was fairly newly out, hadn't really dated and I'm sure my newbie'ness showed. A blonde with spikey hair kept looking my way and finally hollered across the bar to introduce herself and her girlfriend. When a seat closer opened up, they motioned for me to take it. They were both from out of state, different states. They met up each year for the weekend at Chicago's Gay Pride weekend. I'm not really good at judging this, but it seemed like blondie was flirting with me. She came over and gave me a back massage and a neck rub. Later blondie invited me to join them at their hotel. Yes she did! I was wondering if this was some kind of initiation or something. I swear she only asked to see me pee myself, from sheer nervousness at even being asked. I responded with 'no, but thank you for asking', downed my drink and quickly walked out of the bar and hailed a cab. Yes, I did too say 'but thank you for asking'. I'm all polite like that. Lol!

Third Pride was on my motorcycle. A friend and I each rode our bikes to the parade and then walked to Halsted & Belmont to watch the parade. If you have a motorcycle, this is THE way to go because it's so much easier finding a parking spot for a bike.

Last Pride was with Anastasia, before we moved to the burbs. We walked to the parade route and went into a bar on the corner for a cold one and ended up staying for the whole parade because we could sit in air conditioning, have an adult beverage AND see everything from their windows. We got to see the parade, and 2 private shows. Yes! Two! There was a drunk guy in a wrestling outfit (showing off his shortcomings) and taking photos with everyone. The other show was just outside the window. Someone turned a trash can upside down by the traffic light pole and a woman climbed on top of it and started dancing...topless dancing. After all the shows ended, we walked down Belmont to Mi Tierra, and had lunch and a pitcher of margaritas.

Wish we could go this year, but we have previous plans. If you go, keep an eye out for blondes with spikey hair and dudes in wrestling outfits.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Huge dose of mortality for teens of the 70's

If you're like me, and you were also a teenager in the 1970's you got a huge does of mortality on Thursday.

I'll be 48 years old in July. About a month ago when I found out my Uncle had quadruple bypass surgery and my bff from grade school's mother passed away I started to feel it. When I discovered her passing, I looked up some other names from the old neighborhood in my hometown's obituaries and found 3 other deaths. It made me shiver just finding out. This is what it feels like to get old. This is what happens. I am checking the obituaries. I have become my parents.

In 2009: Bob May, Clint Ritchie, Ricardo Montalban, Ron Silver, Bea Arthur, David Carradine, Ed McMahon, John Calloway, Farrah Fawcett and now Michael Jackson. With the exception of Fawcett and Jackson my first thoughts on seeing recent photos of the rest were "they look so old". My parents said that all the time. I have become my parents.

Unfortunately, Farrah Fawcett's passing was inevitable. It doesn't mean the loss is felt any less, it's just that we all saw it coming. And I'm sure many of you, myself included, said now she can be at peace, she isn't in pain anymore.

I was shocked at Michael Jackson's death. In fact when my sister told my daughter and she relayed it to me I told her she was mistaken. Our son chimed in with "Mom, isn't he YOUR age?" Oh Christ on a cracker, now you have to put THAT in your sister's fragile head? What could I say? I said I thought he was a couple of years younger. Way to go Lola! Then I tried to recover saying 'maybe he had some illness or had drug problems like many celebrities do. In any event, I'm sure an autopsy will be done and it will be announced what he died of.' That's what I said, I hope it was enough to stop the wheels from turning.

We watched the Dateline special. One hour on Michael Jackson, one hour on Farrah Fawcett. Both my teens were glued to the tube for the Michael Jackson portion. I watched it and the memories just flooded back. The hair, the clothes, the shoes, the variety shows. I grew up with The Jackson 5 posters on my walls in my room. I watched The Jackson 5ive Tv Series 1971-1973 (Saturday morning animated cartoon), and all the television specials in the 70's and 80's. I remember watching the "Beat It", "Billie Jean" and "Thriller" music videos on MTV.
From 1972 Jackson 5 Television Special:


Put a quarter in Lola's Jukebox for another Michael Jackson memory from the Sonny & Cher Comedy Hour.

I'm feeling all melancholy now. Gosh I hope Anastasia's Mom doesn't call me looking for her Friday. Anastasia is going to the Cubs/Sox game with a cousin. (Only 2 tickets. Drat!) Whenever Anastasia goes out without me her Mom calls me wanting to know why she's not answering her phone. (Umm, hello? I'm not with her. And in this case it's because she's at the game!) Me being the polite quasi-daughter-in-law answers and tries to be helpful. If she needs something, I'll run to the store and run it over to her. I'm the "good" not quite daughter-in-law that way. Anyway, never ask Anastasia's Mom how she is, because she's 70 something years old and she'll tell you "I'm dying". Then she'll tell you all her maladies. I don't need that on Friday.

I NEED HAPPY! I NEED GOOD NEWS! I NEED HUMOR!
And if you can spare it, I need something to make me feel not so damn old!


Bonus points if you knew who Bob May or Clint Ritchie were without googling them.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Thursday, June 25, 2009

If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays - First Pet

Come join me for a very special edition of If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays! We'll be taking time out to share some memories. We'll Blog Back Time with possible ways to right past wrongs or about how times have changed. We'll share childhood memories, school/work memories, family and friend memories.
Today's topic is: First pet
This week's topic comes courtesy of Stephanie B @ Ask Me Anything where she answers questions people pose to her. If you've got a question, click on I Need Questions to submit yours. Since I'm using the question she submitted, I am awarding her 50 Entrecard Credits. Want to join in the fun? Click my post I Totally Suck Eggs to submit a comment with your idea. If I use it, I will award you 50 Entrecard Credits.

Growing up we didn't have pets. I got my first pet right after I moved into my 2nd apartment in Chicago. June 1989, I went to Let's Pet in Chicago. I looked at a litter of what looked like Cocker Spaniels. They were Terrier and Spaniel mix. Four of them were golden, one was black and white. When the clerk went to open the cage, the black and white one stayed at the back of the cage, while the others clammored to meet me. The shy act won me over. I had to have the black and white one. I named him Max.

After Max was trained I let him have the run of the kitchen and living room. One day I came home to find a blizzard of foam bits in the living room. When I checked the sofa cushions I found that the zipper was unzipped, there were no rips. I threw away the bits, re-zipped the cushions and put them back. Next day, came home from work, another blizzard. Checked the cushions again, no rips, they were unzipped. Very skillful puppy! On the weekend I went to Jo Ann Fabrics and purchased new foam and installed it inside the cushion covers. For extra precaution, I sewed the zipper pulls to the end of the cushions after I zipped them up. After that, I never came home to a blizzard. Lol!

Max was a great dog and a great protector. When the kids were babies he would sleep under their cribs. If I came in to check on the baby and startled Max, he would growl at me, then realize it was me and go back to his nap. But that growl was mean!

Max was a special buddy of our son. Our son loved to give Max kisses. Yes, open mouth kisses. EWW! It was so gross and every time we scolded the both of them our son giggled like mad and went in for more kisses. Yes, I have photos, so when he starts dating I'll be sure to let his date know where his mouth has been. Lol! Our son also liked to "try" to ride Max like a pony. Thankfully Max had a playful spirit and wasn't mean when he'd had enough 'horse play'. He just ran off to another room.

Max wasn't the kind of dog you'd have for security. He would jump up and offer kisses to anyone. He was a cuddler and a great dog. We all miss him.

Please post your "First Pet Memory" on your blog. Then come back to Lola's Diner and leave the actual post link here. Please grab the html code for If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays! Badge HERE.

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Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

yup I did it!


What about you?

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

choirs of angels are singing...can you hear them?

Yes they are! My daughter's summer program started Monday at her special school for children with behavioral issues. I can't even tell you how pleasant my day was. No arguing about chores, no "I'm bored", no insisting "I did too earn computer time!" It would have been perfect, except for having to go for more blood work that day.

Don't get me wrong, I love my daughter, but she's been a handful and a half since she became unstable in March. The time away at school will not only be good for me (woo hoo!), but she will also have the routine and structure that she needs and she will be getting additional counseling, which is all good.

And...Girl's got a new attitude! She has a different teacher AND there are 6 girls in her class! Yes! Six girls! Since she started at this school in February 2008, she has only had boys in her class. The only time she interacted with girls was at lunch or in the sports program. Can you say excited?

Her school counselor said they made the change so that she can interact with girls more and learn socialization skills.

I'm approaching this news with cautious optimism, for several reasons:
1. Teenage girls can be real beyotches. Remember when you were a teen?
2. These girls could be teaching her bad habits. (She really didn't interact with the boys socially, so there really wasn't any sharing of bad habits.)
3. I can't stress it enough, teenage girls can be total beyotches. Remember the cliques?
Tuesday is golf league, so instead of school she'll be at the golf course as soon as I can get her and her brother there. It lasts until 2pm. Then she has 2 therapist appointments. I really wish they could space them throughout the week, but they can't, so I guess beggars can't be choosers, right?

Tuesday will be my first break since the regular school year ended.

I can already hear the choir of angels in the distance. If you're really quiet, I bet you can hear them too.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Monday, June 22, 2009

tag, I'm it!

Susan @ Secrets Of A Suburban Soccer Mom has tagged me.

Here's how it works. Go to your first photo file and choose the 10th photo. Then post it!

Here's mine:
This photo is my daughter from our Mother's Day golf outing. It was her first chance to try out the new clubs she got for Christmas.

Now to tag five more lucky players, in no particular order:
1. John @ Gay Dads In Munchkin Land.
2. Auntie E @ At Home With Auntie E.
3. Patricia @ Subjective Soup.
4. Lin @ Duck And Wheel With String.
5. Kelley @ Kelley's Casa DeChaos.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Sunday, June 21, 2009

lolapalooza Saturday

Saturday started off as usual, a late start, so we split up to get more done. I hightailed it to the local Farmer's Market less than a 1/2 hour before closing. Due to the late time, parking was excellent. We purchased cucumbers, 1 red bell pepper, 2 green bell peppers and tomatoes. We also visited the Salsa guys and got another jar of their Key Lime & Garlic Salsa. Just as we were about to visit the tent with all the wonderful canned goodies, baked breads and focaccia, Anastasia called saying she had a flat and she was still in our driveway.

I hightailed it home and filled the tire using the air compressor in my car. We went to ~~~~~~ Tire because, well, it was close and because it had "tire" in it's name. We ran errands, then came back to find out the tire was not fixable. Ok, fine, how much for a new tire? We don't have your size tire in stock. Really, "tire" is in your business's name and you don't have the most popular size tire in the planet in stock? They refer us to NTB, but Anastasia wants to go to Discount Tire, so I ask to borrow the phone book from ~~~~~~ Tire. I copy some phone numbers and we start making calls in my car. The number for Discount Tire is disconnected.

We decide to go to NTB. The guy gives us a quote, not his cheapest tire, the next cheapest. 4 tires, installed, balanced, out the door with tax and about 4 b*llsh*t fees, $659. WTH? She drives a Monte Carlo, not a monster truck! Anastasia begins hyperventilating at the price. The NTB guy, ever the salesman, begins giving her the no money down credit pitch. LMAO! Dude, no job, no credit. More laughter. Then the salesman begins his pitch on me. Dude, no job dude. We were laughing so hard as we walked out the door that we forgot that we left the kids in the waiting area. I had to go back and get them. No, I'm not even kidding!

Next we are off to some sketchy tire place in J-town that sells used tires. They only have 3. Anastasia needed 4. They looked bad anyway, but the more Anastasia and I waffle about them, the lower the price becomes. We decide to see if Discount Tire is still in business and drive there.

It's in business! We talk to the salesman, and tell him our experience at NTB, complete with the price quote and the Dude, no job dude. The 3 of us are laughing our asses off. When the guy gives us the quote he quotes the same price as NTB, then he starts laughing more, just kidding he says! This dude's a comedian. Then he quotes the real price, which is reasonable, so we tell him to get started.

We spent the entire day trying to get the tire issue resolved. Anastasia and I traded bodies again, like that movie with Jaime Lee Curtis and Lindsay Lohan (Freaky Friday (2003).) (Hint - Anastasia is normally the happy go lucky, silver lining person, and I'm the grumpy, why does everything bad happen to me person.) But we switched, so I'm seeing the bright side and she's mad as all get out. We actually even recreated that moment when the 2 discover they've swapped. The "Ahhhhhh". Yes we did! Cause we're weird like that. Because if we're not going to have grocery money for this week, dammit, we're going to have a good laugh and have a good time anyway! Cause that's how we roll.

Anastasia got no errands run and we were all exhausted by the time we got home. Anastasia had to call her client to cancel work for that night because we were at the tire place late. Anastasia started to make dinner and sent me to the store for a milk and bread. I splurged and got this:
And I was bartender all night. Yes I was!

Oh, and yes, I'm fully aware that I misspelled Lollapalooza as Lolapalooza. It's a play on words. Lola, Lolapalooza, get it? Got it? Good! Next time I do a Lolapalooza post, I hope it's about something more fun. And if it isn't more fun, at least let it be less expensive!

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Today's Post Is Dedicated To My Father

This post is dedicated to my father. He would have been 78 this Halloween. He passed away 19 years ago. I had a very different relationship with my Father, than with my mother. (Lola's Diner - Today's Post Is Dedicated To My Mother).

I have my Father to thank for my handy, DIY skills. Whenever my Dad had a project, either in the house, or in the garage, I was his assistant. I resented that I was always his assistant, but my sister couldn’t remember the names of the tools (perhaps on purpose?) whereas, I always remembered. In the winter I froze my butt off handing him tools, bringing him beverages and basically standing around and listening to him swear. Lol! At least that was the case when he was working on the car. He insisted on doing his own oil changes. For all the aggravation he went through I always wondered if he wouldn’t be better off paying the gas station $9.95 (or whatever it was at that time). When my Dad got into a project that was over his head, he would send me across the street to get our neighbor. It was usually under the guise of borrowing a tool. Both my Dad and I knew if he sent me, the neighbor would bring it over himself and see if he needed any help.

When times were tough he always found a way to get things done, whether he did it himself or enlisted the assistance of a neighbor. I never recall him hiring a plumber. At the time I did not at all appreciate that time I spent with him in our garage. Of course now I appreciate it, having learned about tools and the time we spent together. When I got my learner's permit he had me rotate the tires on his car so I would know how to change a tire. At the time I really grumbled about it, but that lesson proved invaluable. I can't tell you how many tires I've changed flats.

I built on what my Dad taught me about tools. I think he would be incredibly impressed at my tool collection and the set of DIY mad skills I’ve learned. I still have his Circular Saw and use it often for projects. I laid ceramic tile in both bathrooms of my previous home, installed new toilets, sinks and vanities and replaced the kitchen cabinets.I've even replaced the gutters on my old garage and repaired the soffit and fascia.

When my Mother passed away my Father clearly changed. For the longest time he was just lost. He still went every Friday night to his favorite haunt and would go out to lunch at a local restaurant frequently. My Dad didn’t cook much, so since I was living at home, I started doing the cooking. During the summer he would occasionally grill out. That usually meant his famous “steak and nothing” meal. If the name isn’t obvious enough, it’s a meal of a big ass steak, and nothing else. No starch, no salad, no sides. Just steak in all of it’s glory! When my sister and I would come home from work (we worked at the same office) and smell the grill as we parked our cars, we’d look at each other and snicker “steak and nothing?” We would always be right.

There are times when I look at my kids and think, how much my Dad would have enjoyed this or that with them. Whenever I have projects to do around the house I do just as he did. I have one of my kids be my assistant. I'm hoping he's looking down and watching over his 2 beautiful grandchildren and proud of all the things he taught his daughter.

Happy Father's Day.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Genius, Pure Genius - Well Sort of...

Anastasia is a genius, pure and simple. We have been having a helluva time getting our daughter to do her chores. She has been playing it to the hilt, using her mental illness and manipulating us, meanwhile leaving her brother endlessly frustrated and waffling between picking up the slack and not doing a thing.

Her brother has even resorted to having motivational chats with her to try to reason with her. You should see him, it's a real hoot.

Anastasia came up with a new plan and it is pure genius! Genius I tell you! It involves Post-it Notes with 1 chore on each and a price. The Post-it Notes are conveniently located on the side of a cabinet in the kitchen out of the public way. Once a chore is completed the Post-it Note is given to Anastasia to pay out.

Shortly after our daughter got up the race was on! Her first chore - litter box changing. A chore she despises. Upon seeing her with the bag of cat poo, our son got to work sweeping the kitchen and gathering empty hangers for laundry land. Next thing I know our son is scrubbing the toilet bowl in his bathroom. Then racing upstairs with the toilet cleaning supplies to do the upstairs toilet. Can this be our child?

Our son even had Post-it Notes stuck to his chest of the chores he wanted to do!

Last Saturday our son earned 4 times as much as our daughter. Sunday was a whole different story. Our son did help with the gardening and was hoeing up a storm as Anastasia planted our roadside garden center finds. Our daughter sat all day and didn't do a thing.

In theory it was genius. Our daughter's therapist #2 thought it was genius too and was happy to see we were trying to change things up to try something different. Therapist #2 had her make a list and do a collage of things she wants to save for. We'll see how the rest of the week goes.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Friday, June 19, 2009

Ridiculous!

Ok, don't tell me I should have known better, because I should have. But I wanted to get into a doctor quickly and didn't want to deal with Urgent Care not doing anything and telling me I needed to follow-up with my PCP. I can't change my doctor that quickly. Many of you may recall my previous rants about this doctor Rants, and More Rants.

My appointment was at 1pm, I arrived exactly at 1pm. Only 1 other person in the waiting area and when I was escorted to a room, the other doors were open and the rooms empty. I went to get my blood test results and regarding 2 other serious health issues, ones I have had before, but went away, so I am completely familiar with what medication and tests are involved.

She gave me my test results. I'm officially diabetic. Don't gasp, it runs in the family, my sister is younger and she was diagnosed almost a year ago. So she prescribed pills and a tech taught me to use a Glucometer. Then because of one of the other issues she mentioned 2 very scary words I won't repeat here. I found it very irresponsible of her to even mention those words with no tests to indicate it. Also, I've had the symptom before (not the 2 very scary words) and medication treated it and I was even able to stop the medication after awhile. She didn't prescribe anything for that symptom and when I asked she said no, she wasn't going to. She never really addressed the other symptom and when I specifically asked her to order a test she said no, wait until the new blood work comes back. It's a very simple test, quite often done in the doctor's office. Nope, no test. I was very angry. On top of her irresponsible talk and refusing to do the test, when she went to check my heart with her stethoscope she kept moving it because she couldn't hear my heartbeat. She ended up frustrated, throwing her hands up slightly and saying, "I can't hear anything". I AM NOT FREAKIN' KIDDING! And no, she didn't get a different stethoscope.

I was at the doctor's office for almost 2 hours, ran to get my rx and test strips, then ran home to play taxi driver. Everyone at home was pissed at me because they thought I was sipping a Starbucks drink. Not hardly and no one was home to tell them about my appointment, so you get treated to this post. On the way back from the movie theater my phone rings, it's the doctor's office, she wants to refer me to a specialist and tells me to come in Monday to get the "mother may I" paperwork. Two minutes later they call back again to tell me that oh yes, the doctor does want to schedule that test I asked about, what hospital did I want to go to? Grrrr, now I have to wait until the hospital calls me to schedule and that of course means 2 trips to the hospital since my bloodwork is scheduled for Monday and no one called me yet from the hospital. Two minutes later they call back again, doctor wants to prescribe something for the problem that I asked for a prescription for during the appointment. Grrrrrrrrr! It wasn't something I've been on previously, but I've heard of it.

Did the doctor go crack open her medical books after I left and figured out I was right? WTF?

Pardon me while I have what I hope is just a panic attack. Yes, I took a pill.

Oh, I left out the part about the doctor calling in the medical assistant to yell at him because he did not change the paper on the exam table. She left the room after she yelled at him in front of me and he tore of the used paper and mutters something like, "yeah, she had to do that in front of a patient.". That's when I said, "you're new here aren't you?" He laughed and that's when I said "that's nothing". Lol!

Yes, I will be researching new doctors next week, but once I pick one then there is trying to get in to the new doctor and I think I have to wait 10 days after I make the change before I can schedule an appointment. Lot's of rules for sure, and I just couldn't wait.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

TGIF! VGNO!

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Time For A Question

Has anyone ever told you you looked like someone famous?
No, can't say that anyone has ever said I looked like a celebrity, but growing up I was constantly mistaken for a girl named Donna who I was told looked exactly like me. In fact, quite a few people didn't believe me when I said I wasn't Donna. It continued to happen when I became an adult.

I so need to get away...



Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Why???

Last Saturday the family went out to breakfast. We rarely eat out at all due to finances. We went to our regular place. Why did I spend the entire time there matching up each patron with a celebrity look-alike? I was completely joking, and completely entertaining myself! And I might add, I was not loud. I'm positive no one could hear me other then our table. The family was completely mortified. I can't even tell you how many times I was shushed, by all of them. I was having fun. Sue me, I don't get out much! When we sat at the table I said I felt under-dressed, I forgot my gallon of mascara.

So, wanna know who was at the restaurant? (Be polite, say yes. Please?) There was a white haired woman with a little too much eye make-up and she totally had that look that Bea Arthur gave before her "God'll getcha for that Arthur" line every time someone walked in the restaurant. (That look that looks like you're looking intently over your reading glasses, but you're not wearing glasses look.) Then there was Liza. Liza with way too much eye make-up, hair totally done like Liza at the Tony Awards. Seated next to her was Eartha Kitt (again, loads of eye make-up). Then for just a moment, Anastasia played along. I asked her who was seated next to Liza and Eartha and she almost did a spit take. I goaded her on, who's the guy they are with? Come on...She wouldn't say it, so I did. Thurston. Thurston Howell III. Yup, she started laughing her ass off, that's what she thought too, but she still shushed me. (It was all in fun, I assure you.)

Anastasia has been ordering our son baseball cards from Ebay to round out his collection because he has really been stepping up to the plate (no pun intended) with picking up the slack on his sister's chores. Nothing expensive, but the shipping methods for this stuff leave something to be desired. Why would anyone think that wrapping a baseball card in a paper towel and sticking it in a small size envelope would protect it? (Not even a #10 business size envelope, the smaller size envelope.) No wait, maybe it was Bounty, the quicker picker upper, in case the mailman got caught in the rain?

Why do I keep giving Walgreen's another chance? I really dislike the store, no matter the location. I've spent 30 minutes in line, with only 1 person ahead of me because the clerk wouldn't issue a rain check without getting the 'mother may I' from the manager. Then the manager comes over and insists they have the item in stock. So let's make everyone else wait while you check the store, then check the back room. Let's not check someone else out while you wait for the manager. Say, someone who is only purchasing a single greeting card who happens to be next in line? That was a week before Mother's Day. Last Thursday I stopped for toenail clippers. Regular $3.99, on sale $2.99. Didn't ring up the sale price, so I paid cash, went to re-check the shelf, then back to complain. I was sent to another register and 15 minutes later I had my dollar plus tax. Last Friday, different location, coming back from golf, daughter needed a Gatorade. On sale 3 for $3. I bought one, it rings up for $2.53. The clerk checked the ad (yeah, I'm sure we were the only ones in that week for Gatorade) and corrected the price. My point here is, is it company policy to try to get away with selling at regular price? Anastasia worked at Eagle Foods and she claims it's just lazy clerks only scanning 1 flavor of Gatorade. That doesn't explain the toenail clippers, they kind of only come in 1 flavor..

Why am I not surprised that our son's father is not taking him for Father's Day weekend? The weekend that he bitched incessantly about the 2 years prior because the court canceled his visitation both years. Yeah. I'm not kidding. He says he's sick, told the kids he thinks he has...wait for it...the Swine Flu. Can you say hypochondriac? I told our son we will find something fun to do, but I know that we are still going to have to deal with an extra moody teen. I did tell him that if he wanted we could make Sunday's dinner in honor of my Father and he kind of liked that. You'll have to wait for Sunday's post to get the details.

So, what are some of your "Why???'s" today? Got any? Leave them in the comments.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Goodbye O'Malley!

Have you heard the news? T.R. Knight Checks Out of 'Grey's Anatomy' I really liked his character. I mean, his character was a total lesson in perseverance, don't you think? I did catch the last few episodes of Season 5. I know how it ended, but I won't spoil it for you if you haven't caught up yet. Options were kind of left open based on how they left it, but now it has been announced that he's leaving.

On another note, it has been announced that Jessica Capshaw has been changed to full-time status now. So there is hope of seeing a relationship with Sara Ramirez's character, Callie Torres. I'm hoping anyway. They've been playing pretty too safe with the character of Callie.

I will miss T.R. Knight's, O'Malley. You have to love his Andrew McCarthy Method of Acting. If I were straight and he were straight, I would totally crush on him. Lol!

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Thursday, June 18, 2009

I totally suck eggs/Wanted: If I Could Blog Back Time Topics

Wow, today's If I Could Blog Back Time Post totally sucked eggs. As my kids would say, "You suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck!

So, in honor of that I'm soliciting topics for future If I Could Block Back Time Thursdays. Please post your topic idea in the comments.

As an incentive, I will award 50 Entrecard Credits for each idea I use.

I will also give linky love on the If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays' post your topic is used.


What are you waiting for? Let's hear your topic ideas!

Thank you!

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays - Favorite Annual Events

Come join me for a very special edition of If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays! We'll be taking time out to share some memories. We'll Blog Back Time with possible ways to right past wrongs or about how times have changed. We'll share childhood memories, school/work memories, family and friend memories.
Today's topic is: Favorite Annual Events
It's kind of weird, but my father’s life insurer, Maccabees Mutual had an annual picnic. I believe they were held on a picnic grounds in Two Rivers, WI. There was a pavilion for the beer and soda that had picnic tables and then there were picnic tables throughout the grounds. They also had grills that you could use to bbq your own food. The first years we went, my parents did the whole grilling out thing, the last couple of years we’d stop at KFC, which was extra special because we never went there.
There were 3 things that were awesome about this picnic. One was the big, old fashioned red water pump (similar to the one in the photo) that we always passed as we walked from the parking lot to the picnic area. My sister and I could not walk past it without stopping to give it a good 20 quick action pumps to get the water to start gushing out. We would drive our parents crazy with excuses that we HAD to wash our hands, just so we could go back and play with the pump.

The 2nd great thing about this picnic was the loot bag. Everyone got a bag based on age. Younger kids got bubbles and Chinese finger torture toys and other cheap stuff that one can now find at dollar stores. Older kids got paddle balls, jump ropes, kites, or foam airplanes. All the kids would open their loot bags and immediately begin playing.

The 3rd great thing was the group games. There were kid games like running and holding a peanut on a spoon, 3 legged races, wheelbarrow races and potato sack races. For the adults there were also the 3 legged races, wheelbarrow races and potato sack races, but the best was the egg toss. Husbands on one end of the game area, wives at the other and they kept increasing the distance between them as each round finished. They had to toss a real, raw, in the shell egg. You lost if your egg broke. It was hilarious fun watching the different techniques. Some husbands did the soft underhand toss, others did the wind up and the overhand fast pitch. Some of the wives couldn’t quite gauge the speed of the throw and ended up with smashed eggs in their hands. Others were Chicken Littles and wouldn’t go near the tossed egg, letting it smash to the ground. Family entertainment at it’s finest to be sure.

The 1 thing that was not awesome about this picnic were the outhouses. Yup, they had outhouses and they STANK! OMG. After the first couple of years I learned to limit my beverages in an effort to limit the number of trips. The last couple of years there was a building added that had restrooms, but they still had the outhouses. I don’t know if it was for the ‘country charm’ or because of the crowds the number of bathrooms in the building weren’t adequate.

I as a little sad the year that I moved to Chicago and cashed out my policy because it meant an end to those picnics. I wonder if they still do them? Or if any other insurance companies did this sort of an annual event for policyholders. I bet not.

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Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Out of the Mouths of Babes

Have you seen this story? Brooklyn D.A.: Man Impersonates Dead Mother to Collect $115,000 in Social Security, Rent Subsidies

Our son was watching the news with me Wednesday night. The minute the story started and he heard what Thomas Prusik-Parkin allegedly did, he said this, and I'm quoting here:
Son: "That sounds like something dad would do".

Me: Speechless.
What could I say?

The kid was right.

Our son then went on to tell me how his dad still has the old lady wig he acquired for a Halloween costume 10 years ago in a dresser drawer.

I just have one question though, how did Thomas Prusik-Parkin cover his blues patch with make-up?

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

I Surrender!

I took the June 1,000 Comment Challenge over at I Am Harriet. In May I took Harriet's May Comment Challenge and racked up a pathetic 224 comments. When June began I was all gung ho and determined to make it to 1,000 Comments.

I have hit a wall.

I am burnt out.

I surrender.

As of Sunday before a computer malfunction I had racked up what I think is a rather impressive 702 comments.

Friday night alone, I racked up 117 Comments. Saturday I contemplated dropping out, setting up a weeks worth of posts and taking a self imposed break.

Sunday we were busy with gardening all day and I didn't get to my laptop until after dinner. I did 4 comments and then my laptop shut off. When I tried to turn it back on, it wouldn't. I made a late night call to HP where a woman with a distinctive Indian accent instructed me step by step to perform brain surgery on my new laptop. I drew the line at re-seating the hard drive.

Monday morning my daughter had a therapist appointment, so in the afternoon I was off to visit the Geek Squad! Just like the proverbial car that makes that noise, so you take it to the repair shop and they don't hear the noise, the laptop miraculously turned on! It's alive!

When I got home I plugged the laptop back in, turned it on and wah lah! It turned on! First thing I did was check email. I got an email from a fellow blogger responding to my comment where I queried "Do you think your dead peeps move with you? My parents died in another state. My Mom died before I moved, my Dad after I moved. Kinda be nice to get a sign some time." I've been following her posts about her experiences and with all that's been going on in my life, I guess I wanted to know if they could be around. After I got the email, it wasn't a big leap to think that I did get a sign.

Anyway, sign or no sign, I surrender. I am quitting the June Comment Challenge. But it won't be all for naught. I commented on lots and lots of new to me and interesting blogs. I thought I'd share with my finds with my readers. (Note: If you're still in on the June Comment Challenge, here's a ton of new sites to check out, just hit control, hold it and hit each link one after the other to open a bunch at a time. You can thank me later.)

Hollywood: Where Hot Comes To Die
Gumbo Writer
Casa DeChaos
Confessions of A Semi-Slacker Mom
Beach Eats
Are You Satisfied?
Moms Without Blogs
Migraine Mom
Clever Girl Goes Blogging
Chelsea Talks Smack
My Last Good Nerve
Self Deprechaun
What Will I Ever Do With My Life?
A Mouthy Irish Catholic Woman? Ridiculous!
Here's What Lets Do
Dirty Socks And Pizza
Don't Judge A Book By Its Cover
June Cleaver Nirvana
Life According to Candice
May You Lead An Interesting Life
Say What You Mean
The Meanest Mom
The Wind In Your Vagina
Stepford Dreams
Thoughts From The Toilet Bowl
House Hubbie's Home Cooking
Snarky Much?
Stop Calling Me That
Junius & Pippi Take the Cake
BBQing Tips From The Deep Heart of Oregon
Around Our House
Lurking In La Vida Loca
Making Memories Blog
Cheaper Than Therapy
Juggling Life
The Texas Woman
Sunshine And Lemonade
I Heart Bowheads
Word Salads - The Demyelination of Me
Lil Insights
For A Different Kind Of Girl
A Word In Edgewise
Coffee With Cathy
Flutter
I Didn't Get The Message
Jan's Sushi Bar
Life With Heathens
Life, Liberty And The Pursuit Of Happiness
Malfunction Junction
Scary Mommy
Soggy Doggy Bloggy
Comedy Goddess
Tired Mama
In Three Words
It's My Pink - It's What I Think
Super Mommy To The Rescue
My Life On The XYZ List
My Life With The Crazies
Country Mouse City Mouse
Hey Mrs. Robinson
Infectious Chatter
Life In Left Field
Comfort Food Warms Your Soul
Keeper Of The Cheerios
Clark Kent's Lunchbox
Gladys Tells All

I'm about ready to surrender regarding some other things too, but that's a whole nuther blog post.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Golden Heart Award - thank you!

Stephany @ Soulful Sepulcher has given me the Golden Heart Award. Thank you so much for this award. Stephany has a daughter who also struggles with mental wellness. She devotes her blog to awareness and providing the latest information on medications and treatments. If you'd like to read about Stephany's story, read these 2 posts real: i stand tall 10/03/07 and hope rings, one year later 10/26/08.

I am awarding this Golden Heart Award to the following:
1. John @ Special Needs In Munchkin Land. If you aren't familiar with this blog, go check it out. You may know John from one of his other blogs, Gay Dads In Munchkin Land.
2. Monica @ Oh Fer Cryin' Out Loud. Monica is also a parent of a child with a mental illness. Some of you who follow my blog may remember the poem that I posted from her site, "You Have To Be His Brother To Understand".
3. Amy @ All About Bipolar (Formerly Being Bipolar). Amy has Bipolar Disorder and does a lot on her blog to educate and inform people about the disorder, as well as other forms of mental illness.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Farmer's Markets Rock! Week 2 (06/06/09)

Somehow I got behind in posting. This should have posted the weekend of 06/06/09.

I think I'm going to challenge myself to try to visit at least 1 Farmer's Market per week. It's a great way to get me out of the house, and the bonus is that we have a chance to patronize local growers and small businesses.

To find a Farmer's Market near you, visit Farmer's Market Search.

Last Saturday we visited a different local Farmer's Market. Many of the same vendors that were as the Farmer's Market we visited the week previous, but a lot of new ones too. And bonus! The Salsa Guys were there. Well, we call them the Salsa Guys, it's actually El Gringo Loco salsas & sauces. They are in Warrenville, IL.

We got a jar of Key Lime & Garlic Salsa, 3 lbs of large beefsteak style tomatoes, 2 cucumbers, a bunch of large green onions, a quart of strawberries, 1 pot of Daisies, and 3 misc flowering plants.
Benefits of visiting your local Farmer's Market/Farmstand:
1. Locally grown and picked fruits and vegetables are harvested at their peak of flavor.
2. Buying locally is good for the environment in that you're not relying on a massive distribution system to get your produce to you. (Very "green",)
3. You are supporting local farms and business. Especially good now considering our current economy.
4. Farmer's Market/Farmstand's prices may be lower than your local supermarket. (Not always true, but the quality is always much higher at your local Farmer's Market/Farmstand.)
5. You'll have an opportunity to purchase some items that you may not have grown yourself, or may not be available at your local supermarket.
6. Opportunities abound to try something new, weather it be a new variety of radish, lettuce, etc.
7. Opportunities to try some real homemade baked goods, jams, bottled pickled items and specialty foods.
Here's an article to check out for more tips Kitchen Refresh - Navigating the Farmer's Markets.

Is anyone else up for the Challenge? Sign up here and then post about your Farmer's Market/Farmstand experiences and keep track of your visits. Be sure to post your finds on your blog and include the Farmer's Market/Farmstand Challenge Banner which can be copied from HERE. As an incentive (as if getting the freshest produce isn't incentive enough) I will be awarding Entrecard Credits to the top Farmer's Market Patrons now until September 30th. There are 16 weekends until then. Can you visit a Farmer's Market/Farmstand all 16 weekends?

Note: This Mr. Linky is ONLY for particpants in the Farmer's Market/Farmstand Challenge, any "money making" blogs or advertising sites will be promptly removed.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Communication Update

Some of my regulars may remember my post about 3 weeks ago, Communication Breakdown. Here is an update...
I contacted Cathie. I didn't have her phone number, so I sent 2 messages. (Fb limits the characters and 1 message wasn't enough, because you all know how wordy I get.) I explained about my sister and apologized. I reminded her I was going to be in town in September for my 30 year reunion and that I wanted to stop by. I also asked her to let me know the next time she was in Chicago and I gave her my cell number and told her to call anytime. She comes to Chicago for work sometimes.

After writing Cathie, it occurred to me that I should contact an Aunt because I suspected the same communication breakdown. I hadn't heard anything through my sister about any family in a long time, so I an email and included my address and cell number. I also asked her to pass on my contact information to other relatives and if she could give me contact information for her sister for when I'm in Wisconsin for the reunion.

Shortly after I sent the email my cell phone rang. It was my Aunt. There was plenty of news. My youngest cousin's wife just had a baby. My Uncle just had quadruple bypass surgery and another cousin (who is younger than I am) is finally recovered enough from the stroke she had a year ago to be driving and starting a part time job this week.

Wowser. I would have missed a lot! Thankfully the Aunt whose information I wanted is still living, I was a little nervous. My Aunt and I caught each other up on our moves. (I haven't spoken to her in I think 8 years, other than my Grandmother's funeral.) We also talked about my daughter's illness. There were several conversation lulls and I kept thinking how to bring up Anastasia. When I finally thought I had a good segway (it was our anniversary weekend) she closed the call by asking me to keep in touch and I asked her to as well.

I haven't heard from Cathie. She's posted photos on fb and accepted a hug, but no word on my 2 wall to wall messages. I commented on one of her new posts, no response at all. In the past, she has posted AND responded to my messages on her wall. She has to have seen my posts by now, she just must not know how to respond or she's too upset.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Friday, June 12, 2009

TGIF! VGNO!

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Time For A Party Game

"If I Were A Pink Lady..."

Let's get our Pink Lady jackets and sew on our new names. My name starts with an 'L' so my Pink Lady name is Smokin' Molly. Follow the chart to find your Pink Lady name.
A - D = Sassy Sue
E - H = Blogger Babe
I - L = Smokin' Molly
M - P = Naughty Nancy
Q - T = Hot Rod Helen
U - Z = Greased Lightning Gertie
I love me some Stockard Channing. Enjoy!


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©2008-2009

obsessed!

Anyone been watching the show “Obsessed” on A&E? I think I’ve watched 3 episodes. I'm obsessed with this show! I think perhaps it has a lot to do with the fact that the show depicts such extremes of OCD. It's proof positive, that some people out there have it worse than the rest of us. It also shows how dramatically 12 weeks of therapy can help a person with this disorder, that is if they truly want help. Now I don't know anyone personally with this disorder, but I think I relate to it because it is a form of mental illness and I'm fascinated with anything on the subject of mental illness.

New episodes of the show debut on Mondays. You can watch previous episodes online at “Obsessed”.

This weeks episode features Rick and Nidia.

#1 Rick – Is a mathematician. He exercises obsessively. Sometimes as much as 58 times a week. He runs from gym to gym doing 5-15 minutes of exercise at each. Daily! Then he runs upstairs to his office, where he has weights and obsessively does repetitions between spurts of writing. He also takes an obscene number of vitamins and supplements. All this because he wants to stay healthy so that he can stay alive to see the new technological advances that he knows will be coming in the future. He doesn’t want to miss out. He keeps track of all his workouts and can tell you exactly the last time he’s missed working out. He had notebooks filled with logs of his workouts. He obsessively calculates the numbers on license plates he sees. He also obsessively turns right instead of left. After 12 weeks of therapy Rick estimated he reduced his OCD by 66%.

Doesn't that strike you as odd, the reason that he wants to be healthy so he can live a long life? My Father passed away 19 years ago. Not much he could have done to lengthen his life, due to the type of cancer he had, but, let's say he could have. Would he have wanted to extend his life to see the invention of cordless drills, plasma televisions, ipods and cellular phones that weigh less than 3 ounces? I think not. I think my Father would have wanted to extend his life to be around to meet his grandchildren.

Rick seemed like a bit of a whackadoodle to me. I mean, calculating license plates really isn't OCD, it's probably another form of mental illness.

#2 Nidia – Obsessive compulsive to the max. She washes her hands about a hundred times a day. She won’t eat fruits or vegetables and she eats very little as it is. She fears bowel movements. After eating she obsesses about the bowel movement, cleans & disinfects the toilet, then goes in the shower, gives herself an enema, then uses a toothbrush to clean out, well, you know where. It takes her 2 hours to shower after the enema. She always has to shower after she goes to the bathroom. Twice she has needed blood transfusions. 2 pints of blood because of her brushing ritual. After 12 weeks of therapy she successfully began eating all types of foods and stopped her bathroom ritual.

Amazing. One of the previous episodes I saw was a man who was obsessively clean. So clean he did not have trash receptacles inside his home. Any time he had to throw out trash, he had to walk outside to the trashcan. That man's disorder seemed mild in comparison to Rick's and Nidia's.

Have you seen this show? What did you think?

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Guess Who's Back? - A Nut In A Nutshell!

I was comment hopping in the wee hours of Friday morning and stumbled upon a comment by BlueViolet. She's baaack!
Welcome back!

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Thursday, June 11, 2009

If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays - First Time I Stood Up For Myself

Come join me for a very special edition of If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays! We'll be taking time out to share some memories. We'll Blog Back Time with possible ways to right past wrongs or about how times have changed. We'll share childhood memories, school/work memories, family and friend memories.
Today's topic is: First Time I Stood Up for Myself
Sixth grade was the first time I ever stood up for myself. It was gym class, outdoors, we had just finished calesthenics (do they make kids do those anymore?). Mr. O'Riley, our gym teacher picked captains for basketball. As per the usual, all the good players and popular kids got picked first. Actually I had pretty good basketball skills, I could make the baskets alright, block, but this fat chick couldn't run fast. It was always Carrie Roberts and I that were left. (She was the quietest person I ever met. Very shy, in grade school, she NEVER spoke. Ever! Well, not until junior high when we were in study hall and I engaged her in passing paper football notes. We were both too goody 2 shoes to get caught. Lol!) This time she got picked before me. Then...wait for it...wait...can you guess?

I DIDN'T GET PICKED. Yup, that's right, I didn't get picked AT ALL! Mr. O'Riley didn't notice and had everyone run over to the basketball hoops. Since I wasn't part of either team, I didn't join them! I sat by the monkey bars, all by myself, my back to their game. Gym class had about 10 minutes left when Mr. O'Riley finally noticed me. He walked over and told me to join them. I told him no, I wasn't picked for a team and I was NOT going to join them now.

Seriously...it took him that long to notice me? He raised his voice and kept insisting. Mr. O'Riley was a big, burly, football player type. Very intimidating. I held my ground nonetheless. It was so empowering for this fat girl to stand up for herself and in effect say, 'They didn't want me, well then they can't have me!' 'You know what? You're not going to embarrass me any further.' I turned and walked away, while he was still taking and walked over to the school's front steps and sat waiting for the bell. I didn't know how to flip someone off or term f' you at the time. Had I, I think I would have employed them. I was just so angry. I had never, ever defied a teacher, but I would be damned if I was going to draw attention to myself, in front of the whole class by joining them so late. Clearly they hadn't noticed I was missing. I stood my ground and surprisingly, I didn't get into trouble for it. I guess he realized that his not keeping proper track of students in his class trumped my not participating in terms of which violation was more egregious.

And that's the first time I stood up for myself. How about you? Was it in school? On the school yard? College? Dating? Divorce? Married life? On the job? When was the first time you said, 'no this is not going to happen', or 'I'm doing it my way', or 'you can't tell me what do to'? Please post your "First Time I Stood Up For Myself Memory" on your blog. Then come back to Lola's Diner and leave the actual post link here. Please grab the html code for If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays! Badge HERE.

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©2008-2009

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

First Official Week of Summer Break - Help!

Heaven help me! Please, send margarita's, vodka, scotch, something. I'm serious!

Our son started a 4 day Golf Camp on Monday. Our daughter starts a 2 day Golf Camp on Wednesday. Don't get all excited! These are not a sleep-away camps! It's just an hour per day, so Momma Lola gets to play taxi driver. And of course when their days intersect, the times don't. And why do the boys get 4 days and the girls get only 2 days for the same price?

Our son vacillates between excitedly talking about trying out for the Boy's Golf Team at high school (I just typed 'son' and 'high school' in the same sentence, our baby is going to high school!) and saying that he totally suxs at golf and he'll never make the team. It's like Sybil playing golf. I'm about to lose my mind! I worry that because of everything else going on that I'm not going to have an ounce of encouragement left to give him. I take him several times a week to a driving range that has a special program for kids thru age 15. $20 bucks for a bucket a day from June 1 - September 1. So every other day I'm giving him lessons at the range. I don't mind, I enjoy our time together, but frankly, the negativity suxs! But every time I take him, I have to listen to his sister whine because she's 16 and doesn't qualify. If she were well behaved and did her chores I could be inclined to buy her a bucket of balls occasionally, but...

Our daughter is playing the 'I vant to go back to the spa' routine, which for the uninitiated means, that she wants to be admitted to the hospital (pediatric psych ward) again. She just so much as told her therapist Tuesday night. Of course my bad, I mentioned her proclivity for treating the hospital psych ward as a spa to a different (new) therapist earlier in the day, Tuesday. Confused? I need a score card to keep track of her appointments. It seems that if you are an adolescent admitted to a psych ward for suicidal ideation, the County Mental Health unit assigns you an additional therapist for 90 days in an effort to give you "comprehensive psychiatric care". (Shit! Did I actually just type that? The therapist she was assigned after the first hospitalization in March got transferred after 2 visits and then there was no new therapist assigned until last week. Then that *new therapist cancelled last week's appointment. And guess what? Our daughter's case closes on Monday, June 15, so no more 2nd therapist. What happened to those missed weekly appointments? They get sucked into a big black hole and nothing happens, that's what!)

So our daughter has been one big oppositional/defiant/isolating little pill. (I'm trying to be ever so kind here.) She won't do chores and consequences mean absolutely nothing. She just doesn't care a flying freak what you take away or what privileges you deny. She picks fights with everyone and she deliberately hurt herself to get out of a chore. The therapist called me back after the session Tuesday night to tell me how our daughter proudly told of how she hurt herself and played it out to be astronomically bigger than it was. The therapist had to have the 'you know what to do if...' conversation with me yet again.

I am seriously on my last nerve, and as I type this I am 11 days away from her summer program starting at her special school.

While in the waiting room, guess who was there? Foster Mom. (See last week's appointment waiting room review I Need To Know What I'm Getting Into.) I don't think it was my imagination that she was shooting me dirty looks. Anyway, she starts up a conversations with the Irish Grandma (how do I know this? Because the Irish Grandma got into a conversation with the reception about the mother's insurance and neither one of them used their quiet voice.) The conversation between the Foster Mom and Irish Grandma is in hushed whispers. (Because when you have a friendly conversation with a pseudo-stranger, you whisper, when you have a conversation with a receptionist about financial matters you use your outdoor voice.) Between the thick Irish brogue and the whispering, I couldn't make heads or tails of it and decided to just take out my Ipod, crank the tunes and play Brick because I forgot a magazine.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Monday, June 8, 2009

Educational Committment Prize - Thank You!

This week has been a Trifecta of Prizes here at the diner. Thank you so much to everyone, I really appreciate it.

Este premio quiere reconocer y dar valor a:
1.-El Compromiso por una Educación de Calidad.
2.-La Apuesta por la Inclusión de las Tic,s en el Aula.
3.-El esfuerzo de padres, profesionales y centros educativos por incorporar las Tic,s al proceso educativo.
4.-La lucha por defender a través de la Enseñanza Valores como: Solidaridad, Amor, Cariño, Respeto, Esfuerzo, Ayuda, Apoyo, Compartir y Compromiso con el futuro de nuestros, hijos y alumnos.
5.-Reconocer y valorar el esfuerzo de las familias, profesionales y centros educativos por
integrar de forma efectiva en los coles y en la sociedad a los niños y alumnos especiales, procurándoles toneladas de amor y posibilitándoles todos los recursos a nuestro alcance.
Podéis repartir este premio libremente a aquellos blogs que consideréis están trabajando en esta linea.
Las Normas de reparto son:
1.-Publicar entrada con los objetivos del premio y enlace a
http://www.loquelegustaamishijas.com/
2.-Publicar en la entrada la lista de blogs a los que entregais el premio.
3.-Comunicar a cada blog premiado la concesión del premio.

The Educational Committment Prize comes from John @ Special Needs In Munchkin Land. If you aren't familiar with this blog, go check it out. You may know John from one of his other blogs, Gay Dads In Munchkin Land. John, you did it again. You got me all ferklempt. Thank you so much for this award.

This prize wants to recognize and to give value to:
1.-The Commitment by an Education of Quality.
2.-The Bets on the Inclusion of the Tic's in the Classroom.
3.-The effort of parents, professional and educational centers by incorporating the Tic's to the educational process.
4.-The fights by defending through the Teaching Values as: Solidarity, Love, Affection, Respect, Effort, Aid, Support, to Share and Commitment with the future of ours, children and students.
5.-Recognize and to value the effort of the families, professional and educational centers by integrating of effective form in the cabbages and in the company to the children and special students, trying them tons of love and enabling them all the resources to our reach.
You can distribute this prize freely to those blogs that consider they are working in this lines. The Norms of distribution are:
1.-Publish the objectives of the prize and link to Recursos Educativos (Resource Education).
2.-Publish the list of blogs to the ones that entregais the prize.
3.-Communicate to each blog rewarded the concession of the prize.
A better World, through the education, is possible".

When most people think of Special Needs Children they think of children with physical disabilities or perhaps children with ADD, ADHD, autism. There are also children with Bipolar Disorder and various other forms of Mental Illness including Psychosis and Schizophrenia. Many families deal with these every day, deal with the stigma of these illnesses and just like a child with physical disabilities, they have to navigate the school system bureaucracy to obtain the special needs programs and accomodations their child requires. It is a daunting task and it all begins with awareness.

I am passing this award on to the following people who are so deserving:
1. Stephany @ Soulful Sepulcher. Stephany is a parent of a child with a mental illness. She devotes her blog to awareness and providing the latest information on medications and treatments.
2. Monica @ Oh Fer Cryin' Out Loud. Monica is also a parent of a child with a mental illness. Some of you who follow my blog may remember the poem that I posted from her site, "You Have To Be His Brother To Understand".
3. Amy @ All About Bipolar (Formerly Being Bipolar). While Amy does not have a special needs child (as far as I know), she does have Bipolar and does a lot on her blog to educate and inform people about the disorder, as well as other forms of mental illness.
Congratulations to each of you and thank you for all you do!

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Saturday, June 6, 2009

What's Wrong With Our Youth/Get Off My Lawn

Ok, I'm old, it's official. I've joined the "Get Off My Lawn" Gang. When I type the next sentence, you will get it.

What the is the matter with our youth today? Whatever happened to trash-talking or ignoring that former friend that did you wrong? Is it really necessary to escalate things to physical violence? This is 2009, not caveman days.

Bond Set For Teens in Videotaped Beating.

The beating, hair cutting and car cigarette lighter burning took place in Park Forest, IL. They burned her face and arms with a car cigarette lighter. She also suffered a concussion.



This is appalling. I heard on Saturday night's news that there is talk that the beating was because the victim started dating a boyfriend of one of the assailants. Perhaps he just wasn't that into you little Miss Scissor wielding, teen? Whatever happened to trash-talking and ignoring? Is it really necessary to escalate things to physical violence? This teen is going to have scars on her face for life. If she wants her appearance "normal", she is going to have to wear hair extensions until her hair grows out.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Friday, June 5, 2009

TGIF! VGNO!

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Harriet remembers the Hula Hoop @ I Am Harriet - VGNO!. But who remembers the Skip It?



For anyone interested, they still sell Skip It. They are available at ToysRUs.

At first when I brought it up Anastasia gave me a look like I was crazy, but then she remembered it. Since she's a bit younger than I am (hehehe) she had one with the counter. I didn't. Still fun though.

From Ann @ Ann Again...and again - Answer Me This

Do you have a favorite flower? I love, love, love Roses and Bearded Iris's. I really miss the Purple Bearded Iris's I had at my previous house. I really had wanted to divide them before I moved, but moving took up so much time I just couldn't fit it in. However, I absolutely adore the smell of Lilacs. We have Lilac bushes surrounding our front porch and the smell was just wonderful. I just wish they would bloom longer. What about you?

Oh, and in a few minutes I will be editing in a very, very special treat. Get those Margarita's ready girls, because you're going to need them!

Here is Drummer Boy, aka Metallica-head's accompaniment to the Red Hot Chili Peppers "Snow (Hey Oh)". Extra points to me for recognizing the song. Anastasia could not figure it out.

Drummer Boy accompaniment to Red Hot Chili Peppers "Snow (Hey Oh)" from Lola Bece on Vimeo.


Let me say that I recorded this video from my front porch, and that is really how loud it is from my front porch. Actually this was a bit more of a treat than usual. Normally Drummer Boy, aka Metallica-head, does not play the drums to music. Normally he plays solo, the exact same drum riff for hours. For those of you new to the diner, or missed my previous posts, Drummer Boy, aka Metallica-head, plays the drums or electric guitar till well past midnight some nights, some nights as late as 2am. He must have a friend at the sheriff's office because when we call to complain about the late our "noise", nothing happens. At least we know he doesn't have any friends at animal control. Get Off My Lawn/Busted, Get Off My Lawn/Busted Part 2.

Pour me another margarita, it's going to be a long night.

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©2008-2009

Thursday, June 4, 2009

One Lovely Blog Award - Thank you!

Chris @ Inspirational Insights has given me an award. Thank you so much Chris.

Rules:
1. Accept the award, post it on your blog together with the name of the person who has granted the award and his or her blog link.
2. Pass the award to 15 other blogs that you have newly discovered. Remember to contact the bloggers to let them know they have been chosen for this award.

Wow! 15 blogs. Where do I begin? Now if I were to take some snide comments from some bloggers I just passed on awards to on Thursday, I could be inclined to pass this one on to each of them, since the requirements are quite rigorous. Ladies, you know who you are! (Just kidding!) However, I'm up to the challenge and am giving this award to some brand, spanking new blogs. New to me anyway, and perhaps new to you as well. Check them out! I'm sure you'll find them enjoyable. Here they are in no particular order:

1. Kris @ Hands, House And Heart Filled.
2. Rocío @ You And Me Plus Three.
3. Jana @ Golfersmom.
4. Swoozie @ Mommy Kingdom.
5. Holly @ I Heart Bowheads.
6. Yaya @ Yaya Stuff.
7. Angela @ Mom's Fortress of Solitude.
8. Tracy @ The Crazy Suburban Mom.
9. Rhonda @ Days Of Whine And Noses.
10. Grouse & Badger @ All Things Vintage And Up-Cycled.
11. Stacey @ All Stace, All the Time.
12. Bettie Blogger @ This Food Tastes Funny.
13. John @ Special Needs In Munchkin Land.
14. Laura @ Things That Are Me - Vintage, Antique and Retro Collectables.
15. Redhead Riter @ The Redhead Riter.

Congratulations to all! Have a great weekend everyone!

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays - Music Show

Come join me for a very special edition of If I Could Blog Back Time Thursdays! We'll be taking time out to share some memories. We'll Blog Back Time with possible ways to right past wrongs or about how times have changed. We'll share childhood memories, school/work memories, family and friend memories.
Today's topic is: Favorite Music Related Television Show
By that I mean, the one that featured the top acts of your time. What were your favorite artists that you saw on that show? Before I age myself and tell you mine, can you guess what the longest running 'music related television program' was? Make your guess, then I'll tell you what mine is and at the end I'll give the answer.

I grew up in the 1970's, graduated in 1979. My Friday nights were devoted to THE MIDNIGHT SPECIAL. Saturday mornings, it was AMERICAN BANDSTAND and then after that SOUL TRAIN.

My favorite though had to be THE MIDNIGHT SPECIAL. They definitely had a wide cross section of acts, both music and comedy. Where else could you see John Denver, Harry Chapin, Paul Williams, Ray Charles, The Bee Gees, Jose Feliciano, Joan Baez, Loretta Lynn, David Bowie, Dr. Hook & The Medicine Show, Steve Miller, George Carlin, Frankie Avalon, The Kinks, Randy Newman, Tom Jones, ELO, BOA, EWF, Herb Alpert, Barry Manilow, KISS, Peter Frampton, Fleetwood Mac, Wild Cherry, KC & The Sunshine Band, Judy Collins, The Bay City Rollers, The Captain & Tennille, Kenny Rodgers, Shaun Cassidy, Donna Summer, Rick Nelson, England Dan & John Ford Coley, Martin Mull, Eddie Money, Leo Sayer, REO Speedwagon, Dolly Parton, The Cars, Ted Nugent, The Village People, Alice Cooper, The Beach Boys, Journey, Suzi Quatro, LRB, The Commodores, Christopher Cross, Cher, Andy Kaufman, AC/DC, Rod Stewart, Melissa Manchester, Bread, Joni Mitchell, Starland Vocal Band, CCR, War, Steely Dan, Golden Earring, Heart, Elton John, Aerosmith, Billy Joel, ABBA. This isn't even a complete list (My favorites are in red, and some are quite embarrassing to admit). Here's a blast from the past from the show:

Got your guess on the longest running 'music related television program'?

Here's the stats:
1964-2006 TOP OF THE POPS (BBC).
1965-2006 SOUL TRAIN.
1952-1989 AMERICAN BANDSTAND.
1972-1981 THE MIDNIGHT SPECIAL.
1980-1988 Solid Gold. Remember the Solid Gold Dancers?
1979 1987, 2003 Dance Fever. Remember Deney Terrio?
1981 - Present MTV.
1984 - 1988 Puttin’ on The Hits.
1986 - 1992 Dance Party USA.
1985 - Present VH1. (Remember VH1's Pop-up Videos? and VH1's Behind The Music?)

(**MTV and VH1 no longer play the relentless number of music videos they did back in the day. Sad, because some of them were so bad, they were entertaining just for the "bad" factor.)

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©2008-2009

Lola's Victory Garden Is Now Google PR2!

Yippee! Last month, one of my other blogs, Lola's Victory Garden was Google Page Ranked 2. The previous month it was Google Page Rank of Zero.


Page Rank

Awesome! Lola's Diner maintained Google PR3 and my other blog, Fire Crotch Rocket, has maintained Google PR2. Yay!

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©2008-2009

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

I need to know what I'm getting into...

I took my daughter to her therapist appointment. As always, I came prepared with a magazine from home (I think the most recent magazine there is from June 2000, seriously!) and my Ipod. Lately I'm just not in the mood for 'people watching'. Blame it on my last trip to the ER which lasted an eternity and a half, besides, the kids waiting for appointments here are much younger (read 'much louder') and I just don't have the tolerance anymore.

I went in for the obligatory 15 minutes to give the real low down on how the past week went with my daughter and then I returned to the waiting room. I turned on my Ipod, selected my playlist and chilled out to: "I Get Knocked Down", "Mad World", "Breathe in Breathe Out", etc. while I read the latest mommyisms from the January 2009 issue of Redbook. (I'm behind on my reading pile, good thing that stuff never gets stale.) I read about how to "Solve Money Stress" (didn't learn anything new), and "Burn Extra Calories With No Exercise" (yeah, uh-huh). I also read "10 Wellness Trends Everyone Is Buzzing About". Really? I hadn't heard the buzz, have you? My favorite was #7 - Vaginal Fitness. Mmm hmm. I did a few kegel crunches in the waiting room. I'm doing a few now, can you tell?
I closed the magazine and shut the Ipod at 6:58pm anticipating my daughter to be done. They ran late so I was treated to a conversation between a therapist and what I'm assuming was a foster mom. The foster mom was inquiring about test results for the young man in her charge and told the therapist that if they didn't do the proper testing, she would have it done elsewhere. She said her attorney was wanting to schedule the signing of guardianship papers for the young man, but she wanted the test results because she wanted to (and I'm quoting here) "know what I'm getting into" with this young man. The therapist was a bit aghast at first, but then responded by offering to sit down and discuss the test results.

The foster mom then went into great detail about the young man's behavior. Behavior quite similiar to my daughter's. The foster mom repeated herself several times about the guardianship papers and "know what I'm getting into". It wasn't just the question, it was the attitude and the tone of her voice. She said it more times than I care to count. Two things came to mind. One, my daughter has had just about every test known to man and I don't ever recall a test for "knowing what I'm getting into". Two, for those of us blessed with our own biological children, we don't have the luxury of testing them and deciding to throw them back like a fish of the wrong size. There is no option. We take them as they are and we love them unconditionally and we try to help them the best we can, no matter what!

To be honest, it sounded to me like she would not sign the guardianship papers if the test results were not to her liking. I'm not at all familiar with 'the system', but if you are to the point of signing guardianship papers, aren't you pretty far along in the process?

A few minutes later the young man came to the waiting room. A handsome boy, perhaps 11 or 12 years old. I felt so badly for him. A foster mom who is more interested in "what she is in for" with a child, in my opinion, has no business being a foster mom. This young man called her "Mom". My heart just broke for him. To think he's bonded enough with this woman to call her "Mom" and she's looking for an excuse to dump him back into the system.

Perhaps I'm being unfair? Perhaps she couldn't articulate her thoughts in a less offensive way? Had she said something like "I'm concerned about his behavior and I'd like to know what we can do to help him", maybe I wouldn't find it so monstrous.

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©2008-2009

Kreative Blogger Award - thank you!

Thank you to Vicki from Reading At The Beach who gave me this award!

Thank you so much!

Rules:
Post 7 things you love.
Give award to 7 other bloggers who are creative.

Seven Things I Love:
1. My family
2. Spending time with my family
3. Photography
4. Gardening
5. Movies
6. Driving
7. Blogging

Passing this on to:

Harriet @ I Am Harriet
Lin @ Duck And Wheel With String
John @ Gay Dads In Munchkin Land
Jo @ Life's Perfect Pictures
Cardiogirl @ Cardiogirl
Rita @ Look It's Megryansmom
Patricia @ Subjective Soup

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

if I had only known - they watched so I didn't have to

We Watched So You Didn't Have To: Speidi, Patti Blagojevich and the 'I'm A Celebrity' Crew. Why didn't someone tell me this? I could have back the 45 minutes of my life that I wasted on this drivel. No, wait, drivel rates it too high.

This has to be one of the worst celebrity reality shows. Please, please, please bring back The Mole. Or better yet...put up a test pattern. Yeah! That's it, put up a test pattern. NBC might even get more viewers if they put up a test pattern.

It was one thing to have to watch faux celebrities eating faux insects (come on, if you watched it do you really believe that was a tarantula that Patti Blagojevich 'tried' to eat?), but it was quite another to see Spencer in faux concern over Patti Blagojevich's predicament. Then his wife Heidi went so far as to pray for Patti, her husband and family. (Note that I didn't put 'faux pray' because I choose not to offend anyone's sensibilities.)

There was even a faux alliance at the end with that drag queen, no wait, I'm sorry, Janice Dickenson, offering to end the faux grueling 'arms above your head competition' with Lou (he must really need the money, must be precious stone, formerly) Diamond Phillips. (Who thinks up these competitions anyway?)

There was faux flyin' all over the place. What is this "Frangela"? If Anastasia was home when this was on she would tell me to stop thinking they were a lesbian couple. Are they? I'm telling you people, when they come out, remember you heard it here first.

Patti was even faux swept away during a no doubt faux river crossing.


Did you watch "I'm A Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here"? Come on, you can tell Lola...

That's it, I'm gettin' the faux outta here.

Leave your comments peeps, let me know what you thought of the show. Real tarantula or faux? I say faux.

What competition would you like to see on the show?

June Top Commenter Contest has already begun.

Just like voting in Chicago, Comment early and Comment often.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

Monday, June 1, 2009

Peterson Case - Special Treatment?

By now you've heard, Third Judge Assigned to Peterson Case. Are they going to run out of judges in Will County? Why is he so special that they get to keep changing judges? I thought that Judge Carla Alessio Policandriotes was on? Now she's off.

So Peterson has his own private cell "out of the jail’s general population due to the notoriety of his case and because he is a former police officer." I say put him in with the regular people. Why not? Could be interesting.

Judge "Kinney had granted Brodsky permission to meet with Peterson in unlimited face-to-face “contact visits,” and State's Attorney James Glasgow is crying fowl because Peterson's attorney, Brodsky was seen playing cards with him. Those have to be some pretty expensive card games, don't you think? How much does a defense attorney get per hour for a case of this magnitude? And he's playing cards?

Is Brodsky on the clock when he's playing cards? Just wondering.

What card games do you think they play? Crazy Eights? Old Maid? Bullshit? Let It Ride? Or perhaps Cat and Mouse?

Leave your comments peeps.

What card game do you think Brodsky and Peterson play?

June Top Commenter Contest has already begun.

Just like voting in Chicago, Comment early and Comment often.

Lola's Diner
©2008-2009

May Top Commenter Winners!

Wow! First place was close, but someone did topple our 2 time 1st place champ.

Here are the results:
1st Place - Lin @ Duck and Wheel With String 750 Entrecard Credits.
2nd Place - Harriet @ I Am Harriet 500 Entrecard Credits.
3rd Place - Auntie E @ At Home With Auntie E 250 Entrecard Credits.
Congratulations to the winners! Entrecard Credits will be in your accounts shortly.

Don't forget, I will be awarding my Top Commenters in June!

Let the comments begin!

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