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Friday, July 23, 2021

A very busy long weekend

My daughter signs her apartment list today. Everything remains to be a clusterfork. No one at the agency knows where her Link card is, and no one will release her SS money to her. How is she supposed to buy food and furnish her apartment? After I picked up my daughter we went to public aid and at least got the card balance. They claim we’d have to call the 800 number to get a new card. The SS money in my daughter’s account should be given to her and the agency should change the payee to my daughter. Yet here we sit with no way to pay the rent and deposit. The agency claims they will cut the checks. Whateves! I’ll be so happy when she is moved in and she is given control of her finances. If she doesn’t get the link card, how is she supposed to buy food? If we order a new card it will take weeks.

Good news! Got the Blazer back last night! It cost 1/3 what we thought it was gonna be! The Blazer was in the shop since we bought it May 19th. Our mechanic has been super busy. I think we got the "I've made them wait a ridonkulously long time discount." People who work and have only 1 car got moved to the front of the line, which is fine. Still needs another repair, but it's not expensive. Have to go transfer title and registration and get plates today. That should be fun.
Maria signs the lease at 2pm, so plenty of time.

It appears there is a “SURPRISE” birthday party for me on Saturday, so no moving will get done Saturday because it’s at my father-in-law’s house. I don’t know why I was told, and frankly, I don’t understand it. I have no friends in the “real world”, my sister is recovering from surgery (but her husband wouldn’t let her drive this far if she were 100% healed.). I don’t see any of my wife’s friends attending because the are out of town. And I’ll tell you what! Anastasia better not be invited because I’m tired of her telling me what to do regarding my son. Not only that, my father-in-law thinks she’s wonderful. That must be why she cheated and left me, right? So tomorrow I will put on my best game face and deal with it. At least they are probably serving Atomic Cake. In WI it was just called cake with strawberry and banana between the layers and whipped cream frosting.

My son’s new psychiatrist wants him to take a very expensive ADHD test (not covered by insurance). It’s 2 part. The first part no medication. After that he will be given Adderal. Not comfortable with that. I know he has many of the symptoms of ADHD, but I am not on board with the adderal. I wish I knew someone who went through this who could advise me, let me know of better alternatives. My mechanic suggested CBD. He has friends who have used it with great results. Sure, let’s have my son blaze up with me. Wtf? Last night I checked the dispensary and found all of the CBD extracts and tinctures are all also very high in THC. Nope, that’s not a solution. A tobacco store my wife frequents has quality CBD products, but I’ve only ever seen Flower/Bud. That stuff works great for pain. Going to need an appointment with my son’s PCP and ask him his thoughts on whether my son has ADHD, and if so, what’s the best treatment plan. I think the ADHD diagnosis is accurate, I’m just not comfortable with adderal.

My wife thinks we should be moving all the “smalls” today (boxes, bags, hampers). We have my brother-in-law and their Dad’s pickup truck. I say move the big stuff with the truck and put the smalls in the Blazer and Buick. Makes sense, right? We have no idea when he and the truck will be available again.

Ugh! Calgon take me away!

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Monday, July 19, 2021

Good News + Catfishing

The good news: After I had to get involved emailing  the Director and cc the Asst Director of the group home agency Sunday night, I suddenly received an email Monday morning containing  the income information for my daughter’s lease, and they emailed it to the apartment property manager. I coached my daughter to call the appropriate people at the office when the property manager called her to ask for this information July 2nd. Today is July 19th. That’s entirely too long to respond to a simple task. I named names of who my daughter spoke with and mentioned my daughter followed up with them early last week. This literally took them minutes to print a copy of my daughter’s benefit letter they had on file.

My daughter has an appointment Friday afternoon to sign the lease, get the rules, and get the keys!!! Woot! Woot! As luck would have it, I found a twin sleigh bed today and will be picking it up tomorrow. It’s used but looks like new from the photo. The price is good too. We will be buying a new mattress and box spring.

My son and I went thrifting to look for some things she needs. Got a copy of the Better Homes And Gardens Cookbook (staff threw away the previous copy I got my daughter during the bed bug debacle, my daughter’s room had no bed bugs but they threw away all her cookbooks). We also got her 2 painted canvases that will go perfectly above her loveseat and they fit with her MCM theme. We almost got a buffet to use as a flat screen tv stand and for storage of movies and players, but it was too heavy and for some reason they will unload your car of donations, but they won’t help you load purchases. Had to pass on it. If my brother-in-law comes over tomorrow as planned, maybe we can stop by and see if it’s still there. It was the perfect color, blonde, to match her MCM coffee and end tables. The tv stands in stores and online are poorly made and expensive, and not as stable as an old piece. I used an extra set of upper kitchen cabinets, and a piece of pine for my 65” because I couldn’t find anything reasonably priced to accommodate that size at the time I got the tv. If we can’t get back for this one, the search will continue.

My daughter is positively giddy! Between moving into the apartments and my birthday being Saturday, she is over the moon! She makes a HUGE deal about birthdays and turns them into month long celebrations. It’s cute.

The bad news:  My son’s former friend, Nathan, the one who dared to sit in my living room playing video games and used gay slurs and commenting on the other guys game play as being gay. He knows I’m a lesbian, but he kept it up so much that my son picked him up and body slammed him, the other guys held him down and explained why what he said was so wrong. I then escorted the turd out my front door and told him to call his mommy to come pick him up because he’s not welcome in my home. The other boys (all of them about 15) were pleasant and very respectful. Well good old Nathan is a major douche bag after attaining the age of 26. He catfished my son. Nathan was setting him up to go on a double date to go see that new Space Jam movie at the theater. I asked my son to bring up the girl’s Facebook page and examined it. (I am automatically suspicious of anything Nathan tries to involve my son in. She had 805 friends, nearly all were older men, mostly from Sweden! I didn’t go through all of them, but I scrolled through a lot and found only 1 woman. ONE! So I had to explain to my son what Nathan did, suggest he block him and not speak to him. My son was bummed about not seeing the movie, so I looked for it on the streaming services and found it on HBO Max, which we get for free. I took my son to the store, got movie candy, sodas, and snacks and I watched it with him.

I pick up my daughter Thursday. If staff doesn’t give her the link card that belongs to her, we will stop at public aid, get a new card and determine what needs to be done so my daughter has link for food. These staff really have to be despicable low life’s to be stealing food money from disabled people.

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Monday, July 12, 2021


I went to the orthopedic doctor today about my knee. The PT place is kicking me to the curb (just the knee, shoulders and back I will continue to have PT). Orthopaedic PA told me I had 3 choices:
1. Continue PT for my knee at home (I will ask for printouts of exercises on my next visit to PT.)
2. A cortisone shot. I can’t tell you how much I despise those shots in any body part. They make the pain worse, so much so that I’m basically incapacitated for days, depending on the body part. And when the pain from the injection stops, I have zero pain relief for whatever body part I had the injection(s) in. They are a waste of time for me. They may work wonderfully for other people, but not me. I’ve had 8 sets for my back, and 2 sets for both shoulders. The ones for the shoulders was in an office visit so there was no anesthesia (no shot or topical anesthetic). The shots were incredibly painful.
3. Surgery to cut the band (LCL) at my hip. It’s incredibly painful surgery and recovery for a very fit young person is 9 months or more. I am not at all fit, nor am I young. So I’ll be doing PT for my knee at home.

On the way home we stopped at Little Caesar’s to pick up dinner. Haven’t had their pizza in years. It seemed different than we remembered. Whateves. I park in their lot, use the app to order, then go in when I get the email. Punch in the code for their fancy contactless pizza warmer, give the food to my son to carry it to the car. Open the tailgate and have him put it back there. I get in the car, push the button to have the seat move to my setting, and go to grab my seatbelt and my left knee gets stuck. Try to move it but can’t. Shift in my seat, move the seat back and try to shift my leg. Each time I try I get that pain sensation that usually comes before it pops. Knee still won’t pop or move, so I grab just behind my knee with both hands and move the knee. LOUD pop, and PAIN, but I got it to move so I could drive home. I knew there would be consequences for not wearing my knee brace! The PA told me the previous visit to stop using it. My PCP tells me I should continue using it because it keeps my knee stabilized. I didn’t wear it to my appointment. 

Go home, eat, then drive to CVS.

When we get home from CVS I go upstairs to change. I walk through the doorway, lose my balance, crash into the computer armoire, try to “right” myself and end up STOMPING on the toes of my left foot. I stomped HARD, because when I tried to “right” myself I lost my balance in the opposite direction. I was wearing my Adidas sneakers which have thick soles, so now I’m icing my swollen toes and will trade off and ice my knee.

I told my wife I want to change my name to Grace.

Tuesday I am taking my wife to visit her brother in the hospital. He is in ICU because his blood sugar was very high Saturday, but he waited until Sunday to go. In all of this particular hospital only 1 person per day is allowed to visit a patient. You can’t tag yourself out and someone else in. Just 1 person because they do a thorough COVID screening. If I drive her all the way out there and find out someone else went to visit him…I will need bail money. I canceled PT, so I could take my wife to see him. It’s also a long drive. 

We are still at 1 car. No word from the mechanic. My insurance billed me for 2 months because I started that policy after they ran statements. I called my agent and was told by staff that I should have been asked to make a payment when I started the policy. I was not asked. Why am I insuring a car I don’t have possession of and is not yet repaired? I canceled the policy. When the mechanic tells me it’s ready I will call to start a policy for it. 

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Friday, July 9, 2021

Sunday Stealing-That’s my answer

Welcome to Sunday Stealing. This feature originated and published on WTIT: The Blog. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. (Past hosts include: Our first - Judd Corizan, Mr. L, Kwizgiver andBud). Cheers to all of us thieves!



Stolen from That's My Answer 

1. Do you ever feel completely rested and unrushed
Rested? Never. Unrushed, often, but never on days I have appointments. 

2. If you had to wear all white for the entire day, how long before you spilled something on it?
Probably before I’m completely dressed. 

3. What would you include inside of your emergency kit?
Typical first aid stuff + whiskey. Lol!

4. What’s more fun than a barrel full of monkeys?
A ball pit full of kids…as long as I can just watch and not have to keep track of them.

5. Is it hard for you to let go of certain things, even if you have too many of them?
Yes. Right now I have an excessive number of magazines. I got about a dozen free subscriptions with rewards points from AARP. I need to put them all together in a box and start reading them, then give them to my daughter for crafting.

6. When was the last time you were ready to throw in the proverbial towel? Did you end up letting go, or decided to fight on anyway?

7. What is the color of awesome?
Green…money! Lol! 

8. What is your favorite black and white movie?
This is a tough question because I am a big fan of BW movies. Probably “Casablanca”. I’m a big fan of Katherine Hepburn, Humphrey Bogart, Spencer Tracy movies. Btw, I think colorizing BW movies is sacrilegious!

9. If you could describe your mood in a color today, what color would it be?
Right now? Angry red. Today was my 3rd day of 2.5 hours a day PT and EVERYTHING hurts.

10. If you could wish for anything and it would come true, you wish for?
My first thought was to be healed of all these injuries needing PT…back, shoulders, knees. But I would rather have my adult children be 100% mentally healthy, go to college, able to work, live on their own, have normal adult relationships, and have healthy children. It just tears me up what their illness has done to them. 😒😒

11. What are some of the wacky things that you like to do?
For my 50th birthday I bought a lawn sprinkler and ran through it. Had a little party and all but 1 person played along. I turn 60 July 24th. (I still can’t believe it!) I’m trying to think of what to do in a less than 2 weeks. Any ideas?

12. If you could have any author – living or dead – write your biography, who would you choose?
I don’t really know of any authors who write biography’s. I’ve read quite a few, but I don’t think any have been by the same author.

13. If you could be a “fly on the wall” anywhere and at any time in history, where and when would you choose?

14.What is the last thing you made from scratch?
Kung Pao Chicken and Char Siu. And they were better than the Chinese restaurant near my house. That was quite awhile ago. With all this PT it’s hard to find the energy and feel ok enough to make something.

15. When we are able to travel again, where would you love to go?
Still would love to go to Vegas, but just don’t have the money for hotel and airfare. We still haven’t had a honeymoon and we will be married 6 years this October. Would also love to go to WI State Fair, but we aren’t comfortable with going this year because of the crowds and the new mutations of Covid-19. Maybe next year if the pandemic is no longer a big concern.

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Friday, July 2, 2021

Sunday Stealing-WATTPAD

4 July 2021

Welcome to Sunday Stealing. This feature originated and published on WTIT: The Blog. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. (Past hosts include: Our first - Judd Corizan, Mr. L, Kwizgiver and Bud). Cheers to all of us thieves!


Stolen from Wattpad


 1. 3 things I love:

 My immediate family.

2. Last song I listened to:

“Living in America” James Brown.

3. Turn offs:

4. What color underwear are you wearing right now?

5. How many tattoos do you have?

6. How many piercings do you have?
Two in each ear, all closed.

7. Meaning behind my URL: I wanted a blog to cover all the topics on the Guest Check below. I thought back to the diners and lunch counters of my youth and recalled how there were regulars who sat around drinking coffee and talking about all those topics. There were very few of those diners and lunch counters when I was young. In Milwaukee, WI there were Goldman’s lunch counter, Woolworth’s lunch counter, and George Webb’s and that’s really all I remember. The only one that still exists is George Webb’s, and there are only a few left. You went for breakfast, late night burgers or their famous chili. There was also the donut shop on 27th street and the Dunkin Donuts on Layton Avenue. That particular Dunkin Donuts had their regulars and their coffee chat about topics of the day. When I win the lottery I’d like to own a real diner.

8. What I find attractive in other people.

• A sense of humor.
• Intelligent conversation.
• A great smile that brings a sparkle to their eyes.  

9. Something that’s currently worrying me.
Covid-19 and the new variants that are popping up. My finances. My daughter’s finances. I also worry about the apartment my daughter is supposed to be moving into. Others have already started moving in, but my daughter is still waiting for official approval. I also worry about how she is supposed to afford a bedroom set (twin bed) because the agency claims my daughter’s current one was paid for by the agency and not out of my daughter’s funds. I don’t have the money for it, nor does my daughter. All her other furniture is either my hand me downs, or things I picked up over the last couple of years and stores away.

10. Something that’s constantly on my mind.
My wife and my adult children’s health and welfare.

11. My favorite store.
Meijer is kind of my favorite. It’s got groceries, clothing, shoes, hardware, garden center, just about everything.

12. What I did yesterday.
Thursday I went to physical therapy for 2 hours. Usually 2.5 hours, but I pulled something in my left shoulder when I opened the shower curtain that morning. I can’t and shouldn’t do anything with that shoulder until it calms down. I just got back full range of motion and then I just HAD to open the shower curtain! It’s ridiculous! I’m getting so old! I also went grocery shopping.

13. My favorite blog:
I like all the blogs from the people who participate in Sunday Stealing.

14. Someone I miss:
My parents. Mom passed away in 1984, and Dad in 1990. I really wish my kids would have known them. Yes, I tell my kids stories about them, but it’s just not the same as them being here and giving them hugs and teaching their grandchildren some of the things my parents taught me.

15. Reason why I follow Sunday Stealing:
It’s the only time I have readers for my blog.

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Saturday, June 26, 2021

Sunday Stealing-Getting to Know You

Hi! Our host is Bev Sykes of the blog "Funny the World". . Welcome to Sunday Stealing. This feature originated and published on WTIT: The Blog. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. Cheers to all of us thieves!  

 Stolen from Sign Up Genius

   1. Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not? I don’t think I’ve ever been surprised in a good way. I’m the one that surprises for birthdays, surprise gifts, whatever. I don’t get surprises.
   2. In the evening, would you rather play a game, visit a relative, watch a movie, or read? If there was the option to visit a dead relative, I’d pick my Mom. I can’t think of any living relatives I’d want to visit. I usually read, or read and watch a movie. 
   3. Would you rather vacation in Hawaii or Alaska, and why?  Alaska sounds cool.
   4. Would you rather win the lottery or work at the perfect job? And why? Win the lottery. I can’t work, unless those things disappeared as part of the deal. And I just don’t want to deal with nasty people. I’ve had the perfect job, in that I was performing a job I liked. I just never got the salary I deserved or raises.
   5. If you could go back in time, what year would you travel to? 1992.
   6. Aside from necessities, what one thing could you not go a day without? Seeing or talking to my kids. As much as my daughter drives me crazy, I still want to hear from her every day.
   7. How many pairs of shoes do you own? Probably 20 if you count winter boots and sandals.
   8. What would you do if you won the lottery? I actually have a list. (That’s probably why I’m not winning.) 
   9. What form of public transportation do you prefer? (air, boat, train, bus, car, etc.) I liked the METRA train when I took it to work. I actually really prefer driving in general. I love driving.
   10. What's your favorite zoo animal? Penguins.
   11. If you could go back in time to change one thing, what would it be? Not gotten married the first time.
   12. How many pillows do you sleep with? 6.
   13. What's the longest you've gone without sleep (and why)? I think I went 4 days without sleep when my Mom passed away. It was a shock. I lived on coffee, which I never drank before my Mom died.
   14. What's the tallest building you've been to the top in? Probably the John Hancock. I was helping a co-worker at my job do a 2nd job clearing out apartments. Can’t remember what floor it was. 
   15.  What are your hobbies?
 I don’t have time for hobbies right now. I go to PT 3 days a week for 2.5 hours each visit. Outside of that, I’m recovering from the pain from PT. If I were able bodied and had time and a work area, I’d refinish furniture and paint garden art. In the past I’ve refinished several pieces and even refinished hardwood flooring.

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Saturday, June 19, 2021

Sunday Stealing-Love Me Some Surveys

Hi! Our host is Bev Sykes of the blog "Funny the World". . Welcome to Sunday Stealing. This feature originated and published on WTIT: The Blog. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. Cheers to all of us thieves! 

Stolen from LoveMeSomeSurveys



1. Ignoring nutrition, could you live off veggies for the rest of your life? I’m sure many might not believe it, but I went vegetarian for 2 years. I also had a health club membership and went 5-6 days a week. I didn’t have a rigorous routine. I did recumbent bike, treadmill, walked laps, and went swimming. It was part of my getting ready to date. I lost quite a bit of weight. Now I want to get on track and work up to going vegetarian, but vegetables and too expensive and I lost some benefits, so unless they return I am stuck with what I can afford. By the way, I refuse to buy the Beyond Meat products. I’ll eat TVP, Boca Burgers, Morning Star anything…fake riblets, fake chicken. 

2. Elaborate on a way you have volunteered? Geek 🚨. I volunteered for Children’s Memorial Telethon and Muscular Dystrophy Telethon when I lived in Milwaukee. I tabulated the pledges along with a couple of my staff, and some other accountants. We had to work quickly when they were getting ready to go to the tote board, so we could get caught up counting the stacks of pledges. I did the Children’s Memorial Telethon several years. Muscular Dystrophy Telethon just once. We had to take bundles of pledges and use an adding machine and attach the tape totals to each bundle. I’m super fast on the adding machine, so I tabulated a lot of pledges. 

3. Can you walk in heels, or do you feel awkward in them? Me? Heels? Are you kidding? I have 2 pairs of pumps that are basically flats. Did I even get the terminology right? I’m not a girly girl, but when I had to dress up for interviews that’s what I wore. Remember clogs in the ‘70’s? I did a face plant the first and last time I wore them in high school.

4. Any TV shows you sit down weekly to watch? There’s not much on now since just about every show is on hiatus for the summer. I watch SNL, Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist. I also watch The Connors just to see the train wreck it has become. There are a bunch of series I stream…Flight Attendant, Kim’s Convenience Store, Manifest, Grace & Frankie, and a lot more I can’t think of now.

5. Will you tell someone if there’s something in their teeth? If I notice it I try to discreetly point it out. 

6. Do you ever actually make your bed? Yes.

7. Do you make an effort to eat healthy? I try, but after 9pm I go off the rails. I crave carbs like crazy. I really should eat 3 meals a day with very small portions of carbs, but I’ve been eating 2 meals a day with very little carbs. I think that’s the problem. I’m going overboard at mealtime by severely limiting carbs, which makes me crave them later.

8. What kind of booze did you last take shots of? I really can’t recall because it’s been such a long time ago. I sometimes drink whiskey or bourbon neat, does that count? In my 20’s I’d drink kamikazies, Yukon Jack, schnapps (no longer a fan of ANY schnapps).

9. What’s something you want to purchase next time you’re at the mall? What is a mall? I’d rather shop online…no need for a parking space (my driveway is fine) no need to walk around (bad knees and back and PT 3 times a week for 2.5 hours is plenty), more selection and if I don’t find my size in the store I have to convince the cashier to call other stores and hold what I want, then drive over to the location that has my size. Online I can just try a different store, and on some shopping sites with brick and mortar stores I can check stock before I leave the house. The mall in J Town and OP are scary places.

10. What were you doing at 10:00 this morning? Getting in the car to go to my father-in-law’s to celebrate Father’s Day and my wife did laundry. I didn’t want to go and consequently I kept to myself. My Mom died 37 years ago 06/19. I really wanted to stay home, but my wife vetoed that.

11. What do you miss the most about your past? My parents. 

12. Last time you were really happy? This is a difficult question. I’m not in a good place because of the anniversary of my Mom’s death, and Father’s Day is Sunday. He’s also gone. It’s really hard to ever get to spend time just with my wife because of my adult special needs kids. My son lives with us, so unless we escape for fast food lunch, that’s about it because we don’t like to leave him home alone. It’s not really that I feel he would be unsafe, it’s just that if we go out he gets more depressed when we tell him it’s a date, not a family outing. When we do get to go out, just me and the Mrs, that’s happy time no matter where we go. 

13. Did you get a full 8 hours of sleep last night? Since the car accident in 2016 I never sleep that long. I’m lucky to get 5-6 hours sleep. I don’t nap in the daytime like my wife does. She’s got her sleep flipped to up all night and sleep all day. I keep trying to explain how to correct that (1 day you just stay up all night and the next day and the next day go to bed at a reasonable hour). She has yet to try it. It’s worked for me.

14. Have you spoken to your mother or father today? They are both in heaven.

15. Are you good at filling awkward silences? I guess that would depend on the reason for the awkward silence and the people involved. If it’s a homophobic hater, I have better uses of my time. At my most recent job, all but my new supervisor were haters, so I kept to myself unless I had business to discuss.

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Friday, June 11, 2021

Sunday Stealing-League of Extraordinary Penpals

Hi! Your host is Bev Sykes of the blog "Funny the World". . Welcome to Sunday Stealing. This feature originated and published on WTIT: The Blog. Here we will steal all types of questions from every corner of the blogosphere. Our promise to you is that we will work hard to find the most interesting and intelligent questions. Cheers to all of us thieves!  





1. Describe your phone Lock Screen. It is a photo of a field of tulips. I’ve been changing the screen with the seasons. 
2. How often do you journal? I don’t really journal. I blog.
3. What’s your favorite thing to teach others? Probably how to cook something, or how to draw something.
4. How do you like to spend Sundays? Sundays are supposed to be my day of not leaving the house. I get up and watch QVC’s In the Kitchen With David, then read or watch movies with my son. I run around all week with 3 days of PT for 2 1/2 hours each visit, then my doctor appointments or family member doctor appointments, then grocery shopping. Sunday is MY day to chill and I’m lucky if I get it one Sunday a month. This Sunday brunch at a restaurant with my father-in-law and brother-in-law. I’m not too keen on that because of the “at a restaurant” part. Everything is supposed to be full on open as of June 11th, so I expect everywhere to be a zoo. We were in Indiana Saturday and found the roads to be not bad and the restaurant we went to not super busy. But then Indiana has been full on open for several months so I’m sure everyone there is over rushing out to restaurants and places. We came home to 5 parties on our block and the street behind us. We could barely get through with all the cars on our tiny streets. 
5. What would you describe as your kryptonite? Carbs? I have been very bad lately. It’s not me jumping on the low carb Keto bandwagon. I’m a diabetic and I need to get back to limiting carbs. Not just sugar, bread, potatoes, rice, pizza with regular crust (the thought of cauliflower made into anything makes me 🀒.)
6. A TV show or movie you thought was really bad. This one is easy. All of the “Indiana Jones” movies, any and all reality tv shows, all prime time game shows.
7. Do you know your mail carrier? Nope. It always seems to be someone different.

8. Which regional foods are your favorite? Mexican, Indian, Chinese, Thai, Italian. I’ve recently gotten some free ebooks cookbooks for other regions and I’m looking forward to making some new dishes.
9. What was your life like 20 years ago? Right around that time I came out and was having the time of my life dating. I was also going through a a divorce for 4 years. I wanted full custody, that’s why it dragged on. I ended up with primary custody, but he had the majority of the weekends and I had to provide all transportation. It sucked for me, and it sucked worse for my kids. I ended up using legal means to prevent all contact and stop visitation for quite a few years. It was an absolutely valid reason that I don’t want to get into here.
10. Crafting hobbies that you’d like to learn or improve. It would be nice to learn how to use the Cricut machine I got a couple years ago. It’s still new in the box. I’m more intimidated by it than my Instant Pot which stayed in the box for a year, but now I’m comfortable using it. I’d also like to do the garden art I wanted to start doing. For both the Cricut and garden art I have all the supplies, I just need to have the time. I’m at PT so much it feels like a 2nd home.

11. What is your favorite type of YouTube videos? I really liked the talking cat videos, but sadly the guy that made them committed suicide. He was so funny, but he must have had a lot of inner demons. So sad. 

12. Describe your surroundings. Friday I spent the entire day in the master bedroom. A new antibiotic I was taking for a sinus infection made me quite sick.

13. You're making a Time Capsule to be opened in 50 years.  What 3 things would you put in it? Photographs (albums and boxes of loose photos). A box of my son’s poetry notebooks. Masks?

14. Something you learned recently that resonated with you. I can’t think of anything.

15. Songs that get stuck in your head often… Just about any song. If you can’t think of one, let me help…
“The Song That Never Ends” or “It’s A Small World After All” You’re welcome! 😁

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It’s after 4pm Friday and we have 1 address for the IN trip and no timetable. My wife’s cousin is having movers coming tomorrow and doesn’t know what time, so she doesn’t know when we could visit and is supposed to let my wife know tonight. So we did not book a hotel. If we go at all, it will be a day trip. Not far from where we live, it just would have been nice to swim, go to our favorite restaurant there, and go to Albanese. We could still do a day trip and just not get to swim. We’ll just do a hotel trip another time. We were all so looking forward to it. We do have a plan B. Hot dogs and s’mores by the fire pit. Weather should be cool.

UPDATE:  We did not get the address until almost 10am. We didn’t get the meet up time until we were about 20 minutes from our destination. We had a good time. I think my wife and I are very happy to have made the trip because her cousin really does not look well. She’s trying to get us to come to Las Vegas for our honeymoon that we have yet to have. She claims to have a hookup with a very fancy hotel and we’d only have to pay for airfare. Sign us up! My daughter has to be moved into her apartment and be allowed to have her brother stay over because we have no one else who would offer to let him stay with them and no way would we allow him to stay home alone for a few days. We’d come home to a lot of burning embers and we’d be homeless. Besides the finding somewhere for him to be, we’d also have to find the money for airfare.

Over a week ago my doctor prescribed an antibiotic for my sinus infection that I’ve never had before. I started last Saturday and was due to finish it tomorrow. I had to stop it this morning because I’ve been sick all day. The usual, plus nausea. Seriously? Canceled PT, had to have my wife pick up my daughter, and go to the grocery store. I’ve been sipping full sugar ginger ale since 9am (that’s what we have, and considering I ate nothing until 1:30pm, probably ok). I’ve had 1 slice of plain Killer Dave’s toast and am having plain brown rice now. I don’t think I want to see brown rice for a long time.πŸ˜•

Kind of glad my wife is picking up my daughter. Nutjob is taking the lady razors from the bathroom and cutting up her arms and face and accusing my daughter of cutting her. Nutjob also said if she saw my car she was going to damage it (she tried once before and I had a standoff with her, her lunging at me and me lunging at her) so my wife said if Nutjob is outside in the driveway she’s calling the police. Why can’t my daughter move into the apartments already? This is crazy! I’ve watched enough crime shows to know there is a difference in self inflicted razor/knife wounds and being attacked by someone else, but still, all this drama is not needed. I’m hoping my daughter can come for a home visit for Father’s Day weekend so we can meal in honor of my Dad. It will be nice to get my daughter away from Nutjob that weekend too.

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Thursday, June 10, 2021

This and that

We may or may not be taking a road trip to IN Saturday. (It was originally to be today.) My wife’s cousin is moving to Las Vegas. She has a lot of health issues and felt that was where to go. She has Lupus which has flared up often over the last year. She also got COVID. Some time after she recovered she spent last week in the hospital because she had a seizure (first one ever), she went into cardiac arrest, was stabilized, then put into a medically induced coma. She was on a ventilator for most of her hospital stay. My wife says her voice is still very raspy and her throat painful from the ventilator.

I say may or may not go because first of all we don’t have the address where we need to pick her up (she can’t drive yet). Nor do we have her Mom’s address because we were going to take her to see her Mom. She’s leaving for Las Vegas Monday. They already have a house and her husband already has a job.

We were planning to make this a mini vacation, get 2 hotel rooms at a nice hotel with an indoor pool. I haven’t booked it yet because the best price on Priceline is non refundable. Of course with the switch from Thursday to Saturday the rates are higher. 

Update:  It’s past 9:45pm and still no contact from my wife’s cousin. I think this is incredibly rude. We have to get permission from the group home for visits, and we’ve had to contact them twice for this trip. I’m not leaving for IN Saturday morning not knowing this is firm plans and not having the 2 addresses we need. 

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Friday, May 28, 2021

Dark Cloud Moving…

I don’t want to jinx it, but it appears the dark cloud has been moving.

The person at PT who got into it with me yesterday (I promise I used “my daughter’s Mom’s voice, that is a super polite, even tone, low volume voice) called and left me a message today apologizing profusely saying that the billing has an extra step she wasn’t aware of and will be insuring things are fixed for the past visits and bills going forward will be done properly, and I won’t need to cancel any more visits. Hopefully this does the trick because I’ve called my insurance 4 times this month, and this has really been stressful. 

I also got a voicemail from my son’s new specialist. This doctor has to approve of all new patients himself. Very strange, but then this type of specialist in the entire history of my having to deal with, have always been strange. Not a normal one ever, since 1996. Unfortunately I had already rescheduled with his old doctor, but this way there is no rush to get in with the new doctor. 

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Random thoughts

Why does everything have to be a πŸ’©fest? I got confronted today at PT. They are still insisting they are right. Seriously? I had to cancel PT for Friday. I will have my wife call to cancel Tuesdays appointments. This won’t be settled by then, especially with the holiday. I could probably continue shoulder and back PT if my attorney notifies them the injuries are related to a lawsuit (which they are) and he faxes the appropriate paperwork, but that does nothing about my knee, which is still not right.

I picked up my daughter for a home visit today. It’s going to be a horribly long weekend. I just don’t know what to do anymore. The yelling, arguing, and disrespect are too much. It’s not just her, it’s the rest of the family. My new tactic is to speak more calmly and more quietly the louder they get. If I match their volume, it turns on me ‘oh, it’s ok if you yell.’ There just doesn’t seem to be a way to resolve this. This is going to kill me. 

I bought my wife a 2000 Chevy Blazer. It was to go into the shop this morning, but it’s been delayed until Tuesday. It’s got new tires and a recent brake job. I got it way under market value (I’m an excellent negotiator, too bad it doesn’t work for my other problems), so the repairs won’t be exceeding it like with the Pilot. I’m hoping it won’t rain over the long weekend so we can wash all 3 vehicles, empty the Pilot, snap photos and put it up for sale.

My brother-in-law picked up his GMC Sunday. Now I have only vehicles I own in my driveway, minus my Craftsman rider which my neighbor towed next door to work on for me. My brother-in-law had been asking me for car buying tips. His GMC already has a buyer, when he gets a different vehicle it’s sold. He wants something “newish”, kind of like what I did. He’s coming over Sunday to do yard work, so I’m sure we’ll cars more then.

The dark cloud that’s hanging over me needs to dissolve, or move on. I’m not sure I can handle anymore stress.

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Tuesday, May 18, 2021

This and That

I spent a 1/2 hour on the phone with my insurance and then got disconnected. A few minutes later my insurance case manager called. I went over the issues I’m having with my PT provider on both calls. Oh, just tell them to call us, they say. The whole point is the provider is trying to do something shifty. I keep getting billed for the amounts over the insurance contracted rates, and now they are insisting I have to pay a copay with every visit. I don’t. Medicaid pays my copay. They must scam a lot of people this way. I wasn’t born yesterday and I’m not paying. Both calls with my insurance today told me that the provider is in network and therefore I am zero pay, I pay nothing for covered services, which this is. I am so tired of the monthly calls and now this month I’ve called twice and will need to call a third time because my insurance needs to call their billing department…again. Anastasia works for them, she says they do this all the time. She expects to lose her job next week, and 2 people are suddenly gone from the location I go to. Monday they had only 2 therapists and 8 or 9 clients besides myself. That’s not what the ratio of therapist to client is supposed to be. They no longer have a receptionist. Both Anastasia and I think they are going bankrupt. 

No word on my daughter’s apartment. My wife and I drove by on the way home from dropping off her Mom’s friend’s Caddy. So happy to get that thing off my property. She is wealthy, but won’t spend the money to properly fix it. All 4 windows are taped shut because they won’t stay up, and many other repairs haven’t been done or are 1/2 way done. My property has been looking like a parking lot. I’ve got the Buick, Pilot, my brother-in-law’s GMC SUV, and now the Caddy is gone. My wife refuses to drive her brother’s GMC because she got stranded for 15 minutes when it wouldn’t start. There is an electrical issue, hence the reason he did not gift it to her. (He’s buying a car when he returns.) I drove it once and had no issues, other than it was incredibly difficult to get into because of my leg and back. We have to keep it until he returns from his bus driving gig in Indy, sometime in June.

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Wednesday, May 12, 2021

Day 411-416 of Sheltering In-No more waiting

Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I picked my daughter up for a home visit on Friday. Saturday was laundry day at my father-in-law’s, but I stayed home. I had my daughter stay home with me. It just would not have been a good thing if my daughter went with. Let’s just leave it at that.

Sunday, Mother’s Day started out sooo not good. Let’s also just leave it at that. It did improve. I took my daughter back Monday before my orthopedic doctor appointment. Talk about a shirt show! There is the game since March of them not calling to confirm my appointment, then canceling it because I didn’t confirm. I didn’t get a call for Monday’s appointment, but I recalled that they had a patient portal, searched my emails, found a link, logged in and confirmed my appointment. I left early as I usually do, got to their office and the parking lot is empty. I call to check in, they moved and didn’t tell me, nor did their portal mention that fact. Drove to the new location, not that far, but that’s not the point. As I waiting over an hour past my appointment to get called into an exam room, I hear every receptionist saying the same thing. ‘Are you at blah blah? Oh we moved, you need to go to…’ What a professional way of running an office! Then the PA tells me I should stop using the knee brace. Umm no! My primary care doctor told me to keep using the brace AND the walker because I lose my balance a lot. I don’t need to damage my knee any more than it is. So basically a wasted appointment.

Tuesday I had a 2 hour and 45 minute physical therapy appointment because I’m going to continue working on my knee, but also return to the work I stopped on my shoulders and back when I got my knee injury. The 45 minute was for an evaluation. My appointments going forward should be around 2 hours.

Wednesday I had to take my son for his bi-annual primary care doctor appointment. My daughter had an appointment this morning and because she coughed, a new overzealous receptionist refused to allow her to see the doctor. We all have the same doctor, so when I went in with my son he asked why my daughter didn’t keep her appointment. I told him what happened and he shot off 2 emails, staff and his office manager. I’ve never seen him angry before. She has severe asthma and a sinus infection and possibly bronchitis or upper respiratory infection, so he really wanted to see her today. Now she can’t get in to see him until next week. I just hope she doesn’t have another emergency room visit before then.

Anastasia thinks she’s losing her job on Friday. My son was supposed to hang with her Friday. I have to break it to him that she can’t keep their plans. I’ll do something with him to make up for it. She also wanted agencies to contact and an attorney’s info, which I gave her. I have a plethora of that kind of information, so it was no big deal to send links and share contacts. Yes, she treats me disrespectfully by avoiding me and contacting my wife when planning hangouts with my son, but, if nothing else, I’m being the better person…as I always am. My life has been a shirt show since the car accident, so any good karma points I can get I will take.

Sunday I was emptying gift bags to reuse and found an Amazon gift card in a bag that had my birthday gift in it. Today I scanned it and found out it was a $50 gift card. Woo hoo! Made my day!

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Saturday, May 8, 2021

Sunday Stealing-Musical Mania

Happy Mother’s Day to all the Moms, Grandmoms, Foster Moms, Step Moms, Surrogate Moms, Mother figures, Moms-to-be, and to all the men out there that are doing the Mother and Father roles. 
Have a wonderful day!

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1. Five problems with social media
     1.  Too political.
     2.  Too many trolls. People hiding behind false profiles just ‘stirring the pot’.
     3.  Little to no concern about others/too much attacking. And for what? What purpose do the attacks serve?
     4.  A lot of scam ads.
     5.  Seems just as much, or more cliquish than high school.
2. A place you would like to live, but have never visited
Europe. I’ve never left the United States. It would be nice to tour Europe.
3. Someone who fascinates you and why
Pass. I may come back to this if I think of someone.
4. Do you have tattoos?  What are they and why?
No. At times I’ve thought I wanted one, but I can’t think of what to get. I’ve seen a lot of bad ideas for tattoos, the art work isn’t necessarily bad, but the subject matter is. Until I can think of a tattoo I must have…I will pass. If I do decide on one, it will be artistic and I know just the place to go.
5. A book you love, and one you didn’t.
I’ve been reading a lot lately. Trying to get my streaming services to get full of stuff I haven’t seen, that I would like to see.  I really enjoyed “11-22-63”, by Stephen King. Kind of a time travel story, which I tend to love. I recently signed up for Amazon’s Kindle Unlimited because I spent an obscene amount on e-books in February. Ive been reading a lot of romance books. Last night I hit 3 that I just could not get through the first chapter. Some of them are real clunkers.
6. A fruit you dislike, and why
I don’t know that there has been one I dislike. A tomato is a fruit. Lately I’ve been avoiding them in salads because of the drippy mess of seeds. Never an issue before, and I have no problem with them in a sandwich. 
7. Two words/phrases that make you laugh
No one here will find this funny, but when I was in high school, I friend of mine could get me to laugh with just one word…”shoehorn”. It wasn’t that shoehorn is so hilarious, it’s the look my friend gave me when she said it. Even if she was behind me and said it, I could picture in my head her usual look when she said it. 
8. A quote you try to live by
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." (Dr. Seuss)
9. Something you miss
My parents.
10. Three weird traits you have
I have a weird sense of humor. Sometimes it gets me into a bit of trouble.
11. What you wore today
A t-shirt that reads, “If you can read this you’re standing too close, and cargo shorts (or as we lesbians call them, “purse pants”. Plenty of pockets, no need for a purse.)
12. Word/phrase you use constantly
“Really?” Usually as in ‘really? Is that absolutely necessary?’ In reply to some argument my kids get into.
13. One thing you’re excited for
Nothing really.
14. Your feelings on ageism
I don’t really run into it myself, because usually people think I’m much younger than 60 years old that I turn in July. When I was job hunting 10 years ago I did feel it. Even when you try to leave out the year you got your degree, they do ask and then things seem to come to a close.
15. Three interesting facts about yourself
     1.  I live in Illinois, but was born and raised in Wisconsin. I moved to Illinois, really just to get the heck out of there. I didn’t know anyone in Illinois.
     2.  My parents were much older than my contemporaries parents. My parents had strong work ethic and solid values.
     3.  Oddly enough, I didn’t have children until the same age my Mom did, so my kids went through the same thing. They also had my parents strong work ethic and solid values passed on to them, even though they never met. 

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Thursday, May 6, 2021

Day 409, 410 of Sheltering In-Waiting

Wednesday, Thursday. Wednesday’s PT was again brutal. But if I don’t put in the effort it’s not going to resolve my injury. No pain, no gain. Who said that? 

Primary care doctor visit Thursday. Surprisingly good visit, except for the weight gain. To much stress, stress eating. Pandemic pounds. Whatever. I don’t know how it’s possible, but my a1c was 5.6. That’s the lowest it’s been since I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes. (I looked through MyChart at my levels since 2018. I can see how he was so excited.) My doctor took me off another one of my diabetes meds. Now I’m on just one pill, and one shot of insulin once at night. I got a script for PT for my shoulders and back. Wondering how I’m going to be working on my knee with those too. I’m not cutting back on my knee work. I don’t want surgery. I also don’t want shoulder surgery. I guess I’ll be living at PT-??? 

I have to get up early to pick up my daughter from her group home. I’m hoping everyone will get along better. Mother’s Day will be a shit show. No tea party as I mentioned in my last post, yet absolutely nothing said about what the plan is. I think the plan is that there is no plan, just another stressful, crappy Sunday. That’s nothing to look forward to. I know my wife shopped solo Thursday and was very secretive about the bag in the way back of the Buick. 

My sister is having surgery on the 15th to remove a polyp in her lady parts. She really didn’t mention where it was. I think she’s having it done at the same hospital my Dad was treated for his pancreatic cancer. It’s all the way on the East side of Milwaukee. I don’t understand why it’s so far from where she lives. It’s a day surgery. I asked what the rules were at hospitals there, like can family be in the waiting area, but I never got an answer. It’s not like I want to be stuck in a waiting room with her creepy husband. Besides, I’ve had 4 surgeries and 2 babies and she only came to see my firstborn, hold her for 5 minutes and then left. No doubt she didn’t tell her husband where she was going. Whatever. 

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Tuesday, May 4, 2021

Day 408 of Sheltering In-Waiting

My wife and son got their 2nd doses of the COVID-19 vaccine, so May 11th will be the last day of this stupid countdown.

Tuesday. Before PT I spent nearly 2 hours on the phone with my insurance company, or their claims handler. What fun! The woman from the insurance company seemed like she was going to rip my PT provider’s billing department a new one because they continue to bill me the amount in excess of the contract rate after my combo insurance pays. I told her I’ve been calling every month since last June. That is not an exaggeration. After I got off the last call it was time to leave for PT. M was my physical therapist today. Thank goodness, I am so tired of the new guy shorting me on my time. M and N always let me go 90 minutes, sometimes a bit more so I can get in lots of exercises. Today was brutal because my LCL was really tight, and bonus…I had sciatica on that side. After deep tissue massage she used this extra long rolling pin type thing to press and roll on my left side, butt, hip, thigh, knee, calf, down to my ankle. She added ankle weights to the side steps and kick outs, and balance on a sheet of foam, left foot in front of right, then vice versa. The last one was to work on my balance and that was oddly the most painful because it pulled on my lower back. I could only hold onto the bar with 1 or 2 fingers of each hand to keep my balance, so I was really feeling a pull in my lower back. Fun times! I have M tomorrow also. At least I know I’m working it when she is my physical therapist. And bonus…she’s very chatty, so it’s like my social time.

My daughter got approval from the Director to have a 3 day home visit for this weekend. My daughter says it’s because she likes us. I don’t have the heart to tell her it’s because we are both PITAS, and we don’t let up. Lol!

My wife doesn’t want to do the tea party for Mother’s Day because it’s too much work. She has never been involved with preparation, so I don’t get it. 

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Monday, May 3, 2021

Day 405-407 of Sheltering In-Waiting

My wife and son got their 2nd doses of the COVID-19 vaccine, so May 11th will be the last day of this stupid countdown.

Saturday, Sunday, Monday. Nothing much going on. The trip to the dealership Monday for a multipoint inspection was a waste of time. The service person was a jerk. When he asked why I wanted the multipoint inspection, I told him because the certified pre-owned (CPO) warranty was ending Saturday, and I wanted the multipoint inspection and to have them to see what a noise was in the front of the car. He told me all they would be doing was checking tire pressure and fluid levels. That does not seem like it would add up to the multipoint inspections I had previously. I read somewhere, probably on the Buick site where I got the idea to schedule it in the first place, that multipoint was definitely many more “points” than that. He also told me it would be about $171 to diagnose the noise. Really? I had a brake pedal issue about a month after I got the Buick. I wasn’t charged to diagnose that noise, in fact the service manager knew what it was before driving it. Does it really cost $171 to listen to a noise? It most certainly does not. When I bring it to my mechanic, he won’t charge me to listen to a noise. I’m hoping I get sent a survey about my experience, but I bet he just canceled my appointment. My wife and I talked as we drove away. We had been thinking we’d shop there for our next vehicle. We still need to replace the Pilot because I can’t stand having to coordinate my medical appointments and shopping trips with her need to go take her friend’s dog out for a walk, or trips to see her dad, or take him to medical appointments. If we want a 2nd Buick it will be from a different Buick dealership. We may go back to the Honda dealership across the street, because this time we know not to buy “as is” and we know to buy a CPO vehicle with an extended warranty. I don’t know…but I do know that I’m tired of being treated like a stupid woman who knows nothing about cars.

My daughter is still in moving limbo. She did find out she CAN take her bedroom set to the apartment because the Assistant Director told her she could, because the money for it came from my daughter’s account, just as I thought. We still don’t know anything other than there will be a stove and refrigerator. We also don’t know if there are restrictions for kitchen items. Like…can she have a toaster oven, can she have a set of knives, can she have an electric can opener, are there overhead lights in the living room and bedroom, can she hang stuff on the walls like art or photos? We know none of that and all my wife’s friends are asking when the move is because they have stuff for her, or they want to buy her stuff.

My daughter got weird news about home visits. She was told they have to be 30 days apart. That forks up Sunday. Happy Mother’s Day to me. If she found out she wasn’t moving this weekend I wanted her to spend Friday to Monday here and help with the Mother’s Day Tea Party tradition we had before the pandemic. So those plans are out. Now there is no plan. Nothing. I’m not pleased. When you can’t work and all you have are medical appointments and physical therapy it’s nice to have fun things to look forward to. Nope. Sunday will be just another day.

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Friday, April 30, 2021

Sunday Stealing-Navy Wife

Navy Wife

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1. What was your proudest moment?
Coming out.
2. What is your favorite childhood memory?
I would say anything I did with my Mom. I watched her cook, do laundry, iron. She taught me how to embroider.
3. Describe your dream vacation.
I would leave my house, get in my car, drive to somewhere that is not my house, and stay somewhere that is not my house. There would be a swimming pool, game room, fitness room, and I would eat food that is not fast food, and not made by myself or a member of my family. I’m not picky. ANYWHERE that is not my house! Even before the pandemic, vacation was never something I did much because I never had the money. My vacations as an adult have consisted of 1 trip to Disney World and Epcot with my sister, going to WI State Fair (which was an annual thing for us, then stopped for about 10 years, then went in 2019, then stopped because of the pandemic), also camping, mostly staycations. That’s it. I’m tired of seeing several Facebook friends show off their 6 times a year vacations. That’s 6 vacations per year, per person. They must all have a huge bank of vacation days and definitely more money than I have.
4. Do you see yourself as an optimist, pessimist, or realist?  Why?
Mostly pessimist. Things just don’t seem to go my way, so I tend to be pessimistic and don’t expect much.
5. What is something you wanted to do as a child, but never got to do?
Family vacations. We once took a day trip to Chicago to visit a relative of my Dad’s. Then there was the trip with my Grandma, Aunt, cousin, and my sister to Disney World/Busch Gardens/Key West. That’s it. Never went on a family vacation as a child.
6. What board game do you hate the most?
Clue. I just thought it was boring. 
7. Describe the worst haircut you ever got.
How much time do we have? I went with my kids and my now ex husband to a haircut chain in Chicago. The woman who cut my hair did not speak/understand much English and it seemed like she had no training to cut hair. I asked for a cut, collar length in the back and feathered on the sides. Basically just shorten the cut I had. Next thing I know she goes at my hair with an electric clipper, lopping off chunks of hair, here and there. The cut I wanted did not involve electric clippers until the very end to clean up the back of my neck. I told her to stop, she didn’t understand, so I got off the chair and stood. She got flustered, speaking whatever language she spoke, grabbed scissors and a comb and started hacking off hair in sections with no regard to cutting evenly. I couldn’t say anything because 1. She couldn’t understand English, and 2. I was so upset my brain would not allow words to come out of my mouth. When she removed the cape, signaling that she was done, I paid, went to the car, and started to cry when I saw my hair the rear view mirror. My sent my now ex husband back in to find out who was the owner or manager. If it was her, we were going home, end of story. It wasn’t her. I went back in and I showed the manager the hack job on my hair. She “fixed” it, but it was still off because you can’t fix the too short sections. Ever since I have to psych myself up for weeks to get a haircut. Then I would be incredibly nervous when a stylist started cutting. No joke. It’s not so bad now because I’ve been getting my hair cut very short. Really short on the sides and back. I’ve taught myself to cut my own hair and my daughter’s hair with my Flowbee during the pandemic. I’ve cut my son’s hair since he was a toddler. Started with the mushroom cut, then buzz cut, then fade, and now layered and longer and using clippers only to clean up his neck. I have my own scissors, 2 sets of electric clippers, and a Flowbee. If I were to get a bad cut I could fix it myself. I got my haircut this week. I went to Great Clips (my go to where I’m comfortable) because my hair was much too long for me to try to cut it with the Flowbee. (I had a 4 inch ponytail!)

8. What’s the worst job you ever had?
There were so many. All of them were in Illinois after I moved here. First the beauty school whose owner told me, on my first day, that I needed to be more friendly to other employees because they complained that I didn’t talk. So, the very next day I started chatting up everyone. Not long chats, short, just to show I was being friendly. At the end of the day the owner called me into his office and YELLED at me telling me I was spending too much time talking. At first I apologized, then excused myself, went to my desk, got my offices keys out, went back to his office, handed him the keys and quit. At the time I was still driving back to WI, staying at my Dad’s, and worked all weekend at my former employer. When I quit I worked 4 day weekends so I could job hunt the rest of the week. I had money coming in and I refused to work for a nutjob. Next job the receptionist screamed at me on a daily basis because she thought I was stealing parts of her job that were accounting related. I was doing what the president told me to do. When I complained to him I was told that was the way she was and I would have to get used to it. I couldn’t quit at the time because I was pregnant with my daughter. I was so stressed that I had to go on medical leave/short term disability in January, when my due date was April. I was on strict bed rest. I returned to work 6 weeks after my daughter was born. I was laid off about a month later because a new manager was making cuts in all departments. I couldn’t have been happier! Cut to my last job where I was told repeatedly in the interview that everyone there were like family. That should have been a warning, but I had no choice but to take the job. Turned out they just meant “straight” family. They were big haters and did all kinds of things to get me to quit. They accused me of doing bad work on a huge client. After I was confronted I went over my supposed errors and made copies and notes proving it was the client who sent bad information. They did not let up. The false accusations continued and then 2 employees who were pals with my supervisor began YELLING at me on a daily basis. One of them yelling at me, in my face, that I was DISGUSTING. When I reported it to my supervisor I was called into a conference room with the supervisor and the 2 employees where all 3 yelled at me, basically saying ‘too bad, we’re not going to change’. They yelled so loudly that my ally on the 2nd floor heard them, and the partners on the other side of the reception area. My ally told the partners either they transfer me to her department, or be prepared to be sued by me for a hostile work environment, discrimination, and on and on and that I definitely had a case and could also go to the EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) and that agency would investigate and they would find many violations of federal employment law. Suddenly I was transferred. Then I had the car accident that necessitated back surgery. I went on short term disability, then long term disability due to chronic pain. Even while I was on leave they tried to mess with me, trying to get my benefits stopped. I ended up contacting the EEOC twice. It was 3 years before that employer stopped contacting me.
9. What is one thing you want to be remembered for?
How I took care of and advocated for my 2 children, now adults, who have the same mental illness.
10. On a scale of 1-10, what is the highest level of pain you’ve ever experienced?
11. What fashion trend do you wish would go away?
Dresses and skirts that are super mini. I just find them gross.
12. What’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?
The weirdest was starring Tom Hanks as my sadistic gym teacher. We were in the gym and were supposed to climb one of 2 ropes attached to the ceiling. Tom Hanks wore a gray sweatshirt, sweatpants, a whistle hanging around his neck, holding a shotgun to his side. It was my turn. I was a fat kid through most of high school. No way could I climb a rope. I refused. He picked up the rifle, raised it and cocked it. He told me to start climbing or he’d shoot me. I tried, my hands and legs raw and bleeding from trying to climb, but never really going up. He kept yelling at me to climb and blowing his whistle. He took aim…then I woke up. From later analysis of that dream and what was going on in my life at the time I figured it meant “dammed if you do, dammed if you don’t.” I still think that was an accurate analysis. 
13. What are 2 weaknesses you have?
I can’t tell you that. Then you would know my kryptonite!
14. How would you spend your 100th birthday?
Hopefully not 6 feet under.
15. What food/drinks would you pack in a picnic basket
Sandwiches, vegetables to snack on, fruit, bottled water, or sparkling water. I would bring wine, but I’m the only drinker at my house. Kind of a boring picnic, but I’d stick to foods that didn’t need to be kept ice cold. Who wants food poisoning from potato salad? 
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